This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. 2 Timothy 3:1-5
Rollo Tomassi’s The Rational Male is largely built on a foundation of self-importance, on promoting dominance and power, and dominating women in order to use them for one’s pleasure. It is similar to Ayn Rand’s philosophy of selfishness as a virtue. He builds his house on shoddy philosophy (solipsism, for example, is refuted by most philosophers, but he uses it extensively to denigrade women) and pop psychology. Some of his views on evolutionary psychology are diametrical to the research performed by others more reputable in the field. He does so to tap into the bitterness and anger of the Men’s Rights Movement fueled as a backlash against Feminism.
From a Christian standpoint, we can see that selfishness and self-interest are opposed to the sacrificial love that Jesus represents. If one gets anything out of the New Covenant, is that we are to love others as we love ourselves. When we seek the best interest of our loved ones, our Christian brothers and sisters, everyone is better for it.
Jesus represents the core of this sacrificial model of love, loving us so much that He went to the Cross for our sakes. Isaiah 53 goes into more depth as to the suffering He went through that we could be made whole. The Old Testament type of this would be Hosea, the husband who loved his wife unconditionally and sacrificially, yet redeemed her so that he could be her husband and not her lord. Jesus offers up the perfect sacrifice of His blood in order to atone for our sins.
Jesus told His followers to deny themselves, to surrender their lives so that they could find life in him. There is no room for selfishness in Jesus’ world. Love one another, put the other’s needs before your own, submit yourselves one to another. These are admonishments that oppose the hedonistic lifestyle of pleasure that Rollo is self-interested in. Power in oneself rather than God. Pleasure in oneself rather than God.
Though he admits men are egotistical, Rollo differentiates (indeed, tries to validate) this self-centered life from what he sees as female egotism by saying it is rational self-interest as opposed to the pragmatic survival egotism of women. In other words, a woman sacrificing her own needs for her children is not truly self-sacrificing because she sees them as an extension of self, whereas a man exploiting women for his own pleasure is ok. His loudest cry then is that women do not sacrifice themselves for their man.
The Bible makes it clear that we are all, man and woman, to be Christ-centered. The Apostle Paul uses the phrase, “Christ who is our life” in Colossians 3:4. A man must sacrifice his desire to please himself, and please Christ. A woman must surrender her desire for her children to Christ. Any Christian who thinks of his own pleasures above what God wants for him is not being led by the Holy Ghost. Particularly if they align themselves with those who advocate a pleasure-seeking lifestyle. The red pill blogger Dalrock needs to seriously examine his faith since he closely aligns himself with Rollo Tomassi and his woman-hating philosophy. Christianity has no place for lovers of self.
The Ephesians 5 model for marriage is based on self-sacrificial love. Agape love, that is one that is committed to the other, shows affection to the other, and holds the other in high esteem. It is the love of Christ for the Church, and the love of the Church for Jesus. Indeed, even before the chapter delves into the marriage relationship, it holds forth the offering and sacrifice of Jesus as the love we are to have for each other as Christians. Women are to submit themselves to their husbands, to reverence them. Men are to sacrifice themselves for their wives, loving her as they would their own flesh, nourishing and cherishing her. There isn’t any room for selfish desires in this model.
Jesus gave Himself for the Church, in order to wash it and sanctify it through baptism according to His word, so that He could present it to Himself. The Bride glorifies Jesus through her holiness and is glorious for the glory He brings to her through HIs love for her. That is the love a man ought to have for His wife.
When one sees value in others, when one loves others, one is truly loving oneself, and bringing glory to oneself. That is the glory of Jesus Christ. There is no greater power and no greater love than that exemplified by Him when He laid down His life for us.
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