The power of the Gospel

This is a copy of a post from my other blog, The Glorious Wife

For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth; to the Jew first, and also to the Greek.–Romans 1:16

Let’s face it, everybody wants to rule the world these days.  That old song of Tears for Fears came to my mind this morning, as I considered gender roles, but also doctrines competing for our mindspace.

Growing up, I didn’t have Jesus.  Oh, He called me at an early age, about five,  I think.  But somehow, I got disconnected.  I was tossed to and fro in the world.  One church, another.  My sister used to read someone called Ram Dass.  Though Catholic at the time, she also read some Eastern junk.  In my twenties, I was into New age stuff, exploring Catholicism, yoga, anything.    I was really looking for the power of God.

Thankfully, after wandering many years, a young man came to me and told me the truth about Jesus.  I went to an apostolic pentecostal church.  That is, we follow the apostle’s doctrine, and we believe in the experience they had in the Book of Acts, that it is still valid for us today.  I absolutely believe in the supernatural power of God to manifest itself in our world.

You see, Christianity is more than just the teachings of Jesus.  It isn’t all theologies and philosophies.  Oh, here, the gospel is incomplete so I will throw in this little pet thought of man’s wisdom.  NO!   A truth is only valid if it supports the whole truth of the Bible.  Thy word is truth.

First of all, most of what passes for science is theory.  Evolution is theory.  Different psychologists will have different studies about different things.  But does it support the Gospel?  My problem with evolutionary psychology isn’t just that it is unproven.  It is that it is based on the natural, the physical.  I am hard-wired, it’s in my DNA.   Some Red Pill “Christian” bloggers like to say that a woman, though Christian, is still a woman and needs instruction and control so that she will not violate her marital vows.  Woman run amuck!  Paul in his Second Epistle to Timothy (2 Timothy 3:5) wrote: Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.  He says they are ever learning and never coming to a knowledge of the truth.

Jesus came to Nicodemus and spoke to him of a New Birth.   Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God. John 3:3.  Nicodemus could only see with the natural eye, the natural mind.  Can a man crawl back into his mother’s womb?

Jesus goes beyond the natural, takes us to a higher level.  First came the earthy man.  Lastly comes the spiritual.  All things are made new.  No matter how the natural man was in the beginning, God through Christ, takes us to the spiritual, which is the true substance, while the rest is shadow.  Jesus can change, TRANSFORM, who we are.  I was born that way.  Yes, but through Jesus you can be RE-BORN.

Women are hard-wired to want to control their environment.  We get so used to managing our homes, our children, that we see the man as an extra child we have to feed, clothes, take care of.    But God never intended that we should control our husbands.  So how do we OVERCOME our wiring?  How do we become the submissive, virtuous, woman of strength and honor God wants us to be?

But ye shall receive power, after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you: and ye shall be witnesses unto me both in Jerusalem, and in all Judaea, and in Samaria, and unto the uttermost part of the earth.–Acts 1:8

We look at the commandments of Ephesians 5, and we think these things can be done through our human power alone?  Submit to our husband?  What?  Love your wives?  What?  Agape, unconditional love?  Boy, that stretches my DNA.  That stretches my natural man to its limits.

The gospel isn’t just about teachings.   Jesus wasn’t just a teacher.  Doctrine yes, is essential, but doctrine can only be accomplished through the Spirit.   It was only after the miraculous outpouring of the Holy Ghost that the people followed the apostle’s doctrine.   I don’t care what your natural man is like; have you become a spiritual man?  If you believe our future in Christ is only through the natural formations of our DNA, of our hard-wiring, then you need to come into the Holy of Holies with me.

Have you received the HOLY GHOST since you believed?

Pamela Parizo © 2017


Rule #3: Love, not sex, is the answer

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity (LOVE), I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.  And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.  And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.  1 Corinthians 13:1-3

The Beatles once sang, “All You Need Is Love”,  and while I don’t hold them up as being models of behavior or for anything else, they were right in this.  God is Love.  His greatest attribute is Love.  I brought this out in my article Christ’s view of humanity.  The evidence of this love was the sacrificial death of Jesus Christ upon the Cross.

Jesus repeatedly admonished his disciples, his followers to love one another, as He had loved us.  To have that attitude that we should give our all for each other, even to the laying down of our lives.  Our sacrifice doesn’t always go that far, but if we look at it from the point of view that we esteem each other higher than we esteem ourselves, this great love works toward the good for all involved.   There is no force more powerful on the earth than Christian love.  God puts this love in our hearts through the Holy Spirit.

Love transforms.  It can turn a stony heart into a soft heart.  It can turn away wrath.  It can dispel bitterness, anger, envy, and other negative emotions.  It not only transforms the recipient of love, but it transforms the giver.  Love is one of the gifts of the Spirit, and is the greatest virtue of all, even greater than hope and faith.

Lastly, it’s important to realize that Love is the fulfillment of the Law (Romans 13:10).  Paul indicates here that because love doesn’t work any ill toward it’s neighbor, love fulfills all of the commandments of God.  The word love is repeated over and over in the New Testament in every aspect of our relationship to God, to each other, and very specifically in the relationship between a man and his wife.   Man is directly commanded to love his wife.  In Ephesians 5, Paul doesn’t emphasize the sexual aspect of marriage at all.

The Red Pill is very much focused on sexuality.  It is a strategy of sexual relationships between men and women, and in it’s theory, marriage or any other long-term relationship/commitment takes a back seat.  At its core is the idea that men, who achieve power through the aspect of aloofness from his world, recognizing his own value, should be able to use and discard anything, including women, according to his own self-interest, his own egotism.  He does this through domination.

While God does give man dominion over the world and expects him to establish that dominion, God’s ultimate purpose is to create a spiritual kingdom, not a carnal one, and so a sexuality loosed from the ideal of commitment, is contrary to God’s purpose which is love for each other and for God.  Commitment to love, agape, is very much at the core of our relationship to God, and His to us.  It’s core to our relationship to each other, and men and women are called of God to commit themselves to each other, not to use each other and discard like so much trash.

To those who have been used and abused by the circumstances of life, by the twin evils of Feminism and the manosphere, by the raw deal that life gives to us all, there is an answer.  The Spirit and the Bride (the Church) say Come.  We are bid to the banqueting table of God’s love for us, to the abundant love held out to us in Jesus Christ, that will shed into our hearts love for God and for each other.

Pamela Parizo © 2017


Rule # 2: Self-sacrifice vs. selfishness

This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.  For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,  Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,  Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;  Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.  2 Timothy 3:1-5

Rollo Tomassi’s The Rational Male is largely built on a foundation of self-importance, on promoting dominance and power, and dominating women in order to use them for one’s pleasure.   It  is similar to Ayn Rand’s philosophy of selfishness as a virtue.  He builds his house on shoddy philosophy (solipsism, for example, is refuted by most philosophers, but he uses it extensively to denigrade women) and pop psychology.  Some of his views on evolutionary psychology are diametrical to the research performed by others more reputable in the field.  He does so to tap into the bitterness and anger of the Men’s Rights Movement fueled as a backlash against Feminism.

From a Christian standpoint, we can see that selfishness and self-interest are opposed to the sacrificial love that Jesus represents.  If one gets anything out of the New Covenant, is that we are to love others as we love ourselves.  When we seek the best interest of our loved ones, our Christian brothers and sisters, everyone is better for it.

Jesus represents the core of this sacrificial model of love, loving us so much that He went to the Cross for our sakes.  Isaiah 53 goes into more depth as to the suffering He went through that we could be made whole.  The Old Testament type of this would be Hosea, the husband who loved his wife unconditionally and sacrificially, yet redeemed her so that he could be her husband and not her lord.   Jesus offers up the perfect sacrifice of His blood in order to atone for our sins.

Jesus told His followers to deny themselves, to surrender their lives so that they could find life in him.  There is no room for selfishness in Jesus’ world.  Love one another, put the other’s needs before your own, submit yourselves one to another.  These are admonishments that oppose the hedonistic lifestyle of pleasure that Rollo is self-interested in.  Power in oneself rather than God.  Pleasure in oneself rather than God.

Though he admits men are egotistical, Rollo differentiates (indeed, tries to validate) this self-centered life from what he sees as female egotism by saying it is rational self-interest as opposed to the pragmatic survival egotism of women.  In other words, a woman sacrificing her own needs for her children is not truly self-sacrificing because she sees them as an extension of self, whereas a man exploiting women for his own pleasure is ok.   His loudest cry then is that women do not sacrifice themselves for their man.

The Bible makes it clear that we are all, man and woman, to be Christ-centered.   The Apostle Paul uses the phrase, “Christ who is our  life” in Colossians 3:4.   A man must sacrifice his desire to please himself, and please Christ.  A woman must surrender her desire for her children to Christ.  Any Christian who thinks of his own pleasures above what God wants for him is not being led by the Holy Ghost.   Particularly if they align themselves with those who advocate a pleasure-seeking lifestyle.  The red pill blogger Dalrock needs to seriously examine his faith since he closely aligns himself with Rollo Tomassi and his woman-hating philosophy.   Christianity has no place for lovers of self.

The Ephesians 5 model for marriage is based on self-sacrificial love.  Agape love, that is one that is committed to the other, shows affection to the other, and holds the other in high esteem.  It is the love of Christ for the Church, and the love of the Church for Jesus.   Indeed, even before the chapter delves into the marriage relationship, it holds forth the offering and sacrifice of Jesus as the love we are to have for each other as Christians.   Women are to submit themselves to their husbands, to reverence them.  Men are to sacrifice themselves for their wives, loving her as they would their own flesh, nourishing and cherishing her.  There isn’t any room for selfish desires in this model.

Jesus gave Himself for the Church, in order to wash it and sanctify it through baptism according to His word, so that He could present it to Himself.  The Bride glorifies Jesus through her holiness and is glorious for the glory He brings to her through HIs love for her.  That is the love a man ought to have for His wife.

When one sees value in others, when one loves others, one is truly loving oneself, and bringing glory to oneself.   That is the glory of Jesus Christ.  There is no greater power and no greater love than that exemplified by Him when He laid down His life for us.

Pamela Parizo © 2017



All mankind is sinful

What then? are we better than they? No, in no wise: for we have before proved both Jews and Gentiles, that they are all under sin;  As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one:  There is none that understandeth, there is none that seeketh after God….For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;  Romans 3:9-11, 23

The red pill is full of generalizations that red pill proponents, and Rollo Tomassi like to pass of as iron-clad rules.  AWALT (all women are like that) is just one of many.  If it is based in the biology of women, then yes, there can be some basis for it, but many of their theories are not.  Even the theory that women are attracted to men based on what they can provide is not a hard and fast rule observable in society.    While generalizations can be true according to logic, they have to be verified.    The red pill likes to paint women as egocentric, which I am going to put forward as not being verified.   However, I will have to go into that in more depth later.    From my readings, I am not seeing any kind of empirical evidence, but rather theory, even in Rollo Tomassi’s writings, that all women are egocentric.

My purpose for this article, however, is to show that from a biblical standpoint, all men and women are failures in their nature.  No one person can say they are righteous.   Not when they are held up to God’s standards.  The Mosaic Law while holding up righteous laws and principles, could not be upheld by a people who were still living in the carnal natures they inherited from Adam.   The Law failed, because as Paul points out, perfection cannot come through our flesh.  It has to come through the Spirit of God.

Adam and Eve’s failure in the Garden of Eden, which I will write on soon, showed that both men and women are susceptible to temptation and sin.  Eve failed, because as a woman she is susceptible to being deceived.  Adam failed because he willfully disobeyed God, not being able to exercise self-control and retain his dominion, not only over Creation, but over himself.

In regards to our modern society, both men and women need to realize that they are sinful in order to make things right.  Feminism is a highly destructive force fueled by socialism and tries to invert God’s order, establishing the rule of women.  However, the Men’s Movement, of which the Red Pill is part, and Rollo Tomassi specifically, do not correct things.  They purport that they are trying to restore masculinity, but they do this at the expense of women, which is clearly against God’s principles and purpose for His Creation.   The only hope for humanity as a whole is for all, men, women, Jew, Gentile, to come to Jesus Christ and let him restore Godly order.

Mankind, in it’s natural state, cannot make himself perfect.  We fail.  Our flesh tempts us.  We are all in that sense selfish, only wanting to please our flesh.   Paul goes into this at length in Romans 8 when he shows how his body wants to do one thing and his mind tries to correct it.  He at last exclaims, “O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from the body of this death? (1)”    Lust takes root in our hearts and sin is the product.  The Law gave a temporary solution in that it allowed for atonement of sins, but it was not perfect because it was carried out by priests who would eventually die themselves.

Jesus Christ became the perfect sacrifice for our sins in that He was without sin, and because He lives forever to make intercession for us, so that the intercession, the atonement is continual before God.  We repent of our sinful nature, turn from sin, and die off to ourselves daily.   This is the only way that both men and women can become righteous and to deny our selfish natures.



(1) Romans 7:24


Two types of man

This is a copy of a post I created for my other blog, The Glorious Wife

That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts; And be renewed in the spirit of your mind; And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.  Ephesians 4:22-24

Mankind, which includes women, is divided into two distinct types.  The carnal man and the spiritual man.  These typologies override all others, as at the end of the day, at the end of the book (Revelation), there are only going to be two types, and our destinies will be determined by which we fall into.

The carnal man is the man who is earthy.  All creation are descendants of the first couple, Adam and Eve.  Consequently, we have their same natures, their DNA,  and are subject to temptations and failure just as they were.   Even if we are able to “control” ourselves, we are not fulfilling God’s purposes but our own.

What happened in the Garden was a foreshadowing of this.  Adam and Eve, by their own carnal, earthy natures, made of flesh and of blood, failed.  They gave in to temptation, they allowed sin to overpower them.   Because of this, they tried to cover their sins with their own covering of fig leaves.  We realize we are naked, and we try to cover up that nakedness on our own.

But God knew something more was required.  He slew an animal, and covered them in coats of skins (like a fur coat).  God required a sacrifice to cover them.  This is both a foreshadow of the Law and of the ultimate sacrifice of Jesus Christ.  It’s my humble opinion that the animal was a lamb.

The lesson of the Garden is, the carnal man is subject to sin and temptation and has to be put off so that we can put on the new, spiritual man.  This is why Jesus came, to put away our sins, and to make a way for us to enter into God’s rest, the Holy Spirit.

Red pill theory teaches that men are subdivided according to their natural qualities and abilities.  It exalts the alpha male, which is based on innate or developed natural qualities, which have nothing to do with the spiritual man.  Rollo Tomassi ascribes to this, as do Alt-Christian red pill proponents.  One cannot develop oneself into a spiritual man.  One can only be spiritual if one is born spiritually through the Holy Ghost.  Jesus himself said “That which is born of flesh is flesh, that which is born of spirit is spirit.” (John 3:6)

The spiritual man is created when we receive God’s Spirit within us and are led by that Spirit.   John 1:12 says, “But as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name:”  All creation groans and travails for the manifestation of the sons of God, which are those who are filled with His Spirit as the disciples were on the Day of Pentecost.  God’s spirit dwells in us and enables us to overcome the old nature, the old Adamic man.

Power doesn’t come through our own self-will.  It comes by surrendering ourselves to the Holy Spirit and allowing Christ to live within us.  It comes through being led by His Spirit.  It’s only then that we can conceive of what it means to die off to ourselves and let Him be in the middle of everything we do.  We are no longer living for what we want, what we think is right, but what is demanded of us by Jesus and His love.

This is also the key to understanding Ephesians 5.  When this passage speaks of Christ’s self-sacrifice for the Church, this is how a man ought to love his wife.   This isn’t just talking about the daily sacrifices that a man makes in his marriage.  If we look at this in terms of a marriage with Christ as the Bridegroom and we the Bride–Jesus died off to himself in order to see His wife made holy.  He died off to his self-will (Gethsemane) and went to the Cross for her.   He did this so that she could receive the best of His love: the hope that is shed abroad by the Holy Spirit.  So that they could become one.  A man cannot be selfish in his desires for his marriage.  He can’t be concerned only with what is best for himself, but also what will help his wife to become her best.  After all, she is the reflection of his glory.   The more Christ-centered a man is, the more he can impart to his wife the virtues of a Christian walk, leading her in a love for Jesus.

I want to emphasize here that when we seek to do things through our own self-wills, through our own natural force of strength, we will fail.  Serving Jesus is not about self-will.  It’s important to know God’s commandments, to know what is required, but we also have to realize that it takes the Holy Spirit, and our spiritual discernment in order to accomplish those things.  God said, it’s not by might, nor by power but by demonstration of the Spirit.

Submission and leadership isn’t accomplished through man’s natural strength, his superior frame, his superior intellect.  It’s accomplished through the workings of the Spirit.   I like the old adage that Marriage Takes Three.  It takes Jesus to bring together the man and the woman in a marriage that serves Him and glorifies Him.   A man who is filled with the Holy Ghost will lead His wife spiritually and seek what’s best for their marriage and for her.  A woman who is filled with the Holy Ghost will submit herself to the leadership of a husband and seek to glorify him through her godly behavior, in chastity, holiness and modesty with an obedient heart.

As Christians, we should study the spiritual man, what the Bible says about being new creatures in Jesus.  The old, carnal man, our “evolutionary” man so to speak, is put away.  DNA has nothing to do with the spiritual man, because Jesus does away with what our human nature tells us to do and it is His spirit that leads us and not ourselves.  The Bible tells us that the outer man, that is our flesh, dies, while the inner man, the man of the heart, the new Christian man, is being renewed every day (2 Corinthians 4:16).

Pamela Parizo © 2017