Eden and God’s Imperative

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.  Genesis 2:18 RSV

In the Book of Genesis, God creates all the animals and then He creates the Man, His image reflected in human flesh.  I first want to state that man is a separate creation from the creatures of the earth and IS NOT an animal by God’s definition.    God saw that Man was alone, unlike all His other living creatures, so He decided to create for him a help suitable for him.  God caused a sleep to come over Adam, and brought a rib out in order to fashion the woman.    Eve is not a clone of him, but it is a separate, biologically distinct creation that is nevertheless a complementary part of mankind.  So while we share a common humanity, we are biologically different.

The question has arisen in recent times, whether God intended for man to be polygamous.  The primary thing in the Bible that rules against this is that God twice had the opportunity to provide multiple partners for man and He didn’t.  At the Creation and at the Flood, God chose to have one man, one woman as the ideal to carry on mankind.  In considering this problem, I play the opposition and ask the question, what rules against man being polygamous?  Why would being polygamous not be in God’s gameplan?  I think the key goes back to the original directive God gave to the man and to the woman, to “be fruitful, multiply and replenish the earth.”  I’m going to call this command, God’s Imperative.  While they are to produce children, and produce them exponentially, the purpose of all this is to replenish the earth, to fill it at the correct proportions.  At current, there are near 7.5 billion people upon the earth.   In 1900, that was 1.6 billion.  So we can see that when man multiplies at a high rate, it overruns the earth.  So, if God had given man multiple partners they would have multiplied faster than God intended.    

This one male, one female pattern can be seen further throughout the Bible.  Animals on the Ark were assembled by pairs.  The majority of people mentioned in the Bible were monogamous.  At the Flood, not only the animals, but the humans also had only one mate.  In scripture after scripture, man is directed to enjoy his wife, not wives.  To be satisfied with his wife.  Jesus reinforces this ideal when he says that God made two in the beginning.   It is true that God did not condemn polygamy in general but it was never his ideal.  Abraham had serial wives; Isaac had one wife; Jacob would have chosen only one wife but through deceit and his wives concern for having children, he ended up with two wives and two concubines.  Men were allowed to take extra wives in wartime.  David also had multiple wives.   God did not condemn these relationships because it did not violate His imperative.

Monogamy has been the most stable factor in human history, so one has to ask that if male was naturally polygamous, why there have not been more polygamous societies.  It’s because some men choose not to be monogamous.  Some men are not satisfied with one wife.  And this has been borne out in a recent scientific study.  Men and women experience lust, which is natural to our carnal natures, always wanting more than we have.

The Red Pill (and more specifically Rollo Tomassi) puts forward the evolutionary theory that Men are by nature polygamous (Male Imperative) and that Women are by nature both hypergamous (seeking the highest quality mate–the Female Imperative) and monogamous (seeking commitment).   I’ve already stated that evolution is not true, it is theoretical in nature, and violates the tenets of the Bible.  Rollo in many instances disparages the Bible.

The Male Imperative then is contrary to God’s Imperative of one man, one woman and the directive to replenish the earth.  It is born out of man’s lust.  While polygamy was allowed, as Christians we should seek God’s ideal and not man’s.  The Apostle Paul directs men to have their own wife (again, implying monogamy).  Neither the Mosaic Law nor Christianity condones men having harems of unmarried women, of having man exploit the sexuality of women, which the Red Pill and Rollo Tomassi condone.  In fact, Rollo in one place tells men they should avoid getting married.  He developed something called plate theory and believes powerful men, these “alpha males” should only pursue their self-interest and it is within their self-interest to keep many options open (women as plates) in order to avoid what he calls Oneitis.  While Oneitis (the soulmate theory) is false, I would call the Male Imperative a half-truth.  It does not meet God’s ideal.

Which brings us to the Female Imperative.  How does the Female Imperative measure against God’s Imperative?   If woman is naturally hypergamous, that is, she is seeking the most dominant, attractive and powerful mate to marry, that would not meet the ideals of Christianity.  Christianity is based not on the natural man, but the spiritual.  So, in Christianity, it is not the natural man that matters to God’s kingdom, but the spiritual man.  While we all as humans want to have a valuable companion to spend our life with and build the Kingdom of God, women who profess godliness are not looking for any of the qualities suggested by hypergamy, but rather the qualities of a godly husband–provision, protection, and spiritual leadership.  Qualities of physical beauty and attractiveness are subjective.  In terms of woman seeking commitment in a relationship, of seeking a mate who can meet her needs for safety and security for herself and her children I would say that that portion of the Female Imperative is true.  So, also, in terms of God’s Imperative, the Female Imperative is also a half-truth.

God wants us to find a mate that is suitable, both for His directive of replenishing the earth (which is less urgent in these times) and of building the Kingdom of God, building spiritually sound Christian families.  He isn’t interested in man’s lustful desire for more than one woman, or in woman’s need for an attractive, powerful mate.  He is interested in Christian families, which meets man’s and woman’s needs for companionship, love and stability within our society and the church.  A monogamous, loving relationship is God’s Imperative.

Pamela Parizo © 2017

 

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The Ephesians 5 Model

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;  That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. Ephesians 5:25-27

While I recommend that husbands and wives read and practice the Ephesians 5 principles for their marriage, I want to key in on the above verses because I think they are essential to understanding that the union between Christ and the Church is what marriage is symbolic of.

When considering any action in marriage, a husband should take a look at how Christ interacts with the Church and then ask himself, whether Christ would behave in that manner toward His people.   Jesus’ love for the church is sacrificial, it’s unconditional and it’s commited.  Jesus’ love is the highest form of love there is, and a husband should model it.  Likewise a woman should judge her own actions by the callings to which Jesus has for the Church and ask herself whether the Church would treat Christ in the manner in which she is treating her husband.

When a spouse distances themselves from their partner, or at worst, is unfaithful to them, it’s important to look at the Bible to see how to treat these problems, because relying on the wisdom of men can severely damage a relationship and end any hope for it.

In the Rational Male, Rollo Tomassi puts forward the rule that power belongs to the partner who needs the other the least.  So he (and the Red Pill follows this as well) puts forward the idea that a man should remain aloof from his partner, that he should develop external interests and that a wife or female partner should not be at the center of the man’s life.  And yet, they would have the female strongly desire them to the point where they are willing to create such an uncertainty in the woman that she will pursue them.  It’s the height of manipulation, and even Machievellian when one thinks of the way these men are exploiting females in their lives.

The ideal that a woman should not be a core part of the man’s life is contrary to Biblical doctrine.  Woman was created to be a help to the man, a support in his dominion role within the world and in a marriage, he is to treat her as Christ treats the Church.  The Bride is central to Jesus’ mission of salvation.  In fact, it is the medium through which He expresses his mission.  His bride glorifies Him.

Also, the Red Pill “games” are contrary not only to a Christian relationship, but are contrary to the core principle of agape love.  True intimacy comes through honesty, and deceit and dishonest will destroy a relationship.

Ephesians 5 demonstrates a model of marriage based on Jesus and His Bride with the core principle of agape love binding them together.  Through the Spirit of Jesus, that is through the self-sacrificing love that He has for us, a woman can submit herself to her husband, and the husband can love his wife as Jesus loves the Church.  This is the plan that God has for man and wife, that they give to each other and live in the harmony of an ordered relationship, glorifying Jesus Christ.

Pamela Parizo © 2017

Rule #3: Love, not sex, is the answer

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity (LOVE), I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.  And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.  And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.  1 Corinthians 13:1-3

The Beatles once sang, “All You Need Is Love”,  and while I don’t hold them up as being models of behavior or for anything else, they were right in this.  God is Love.  His greatest attribute is Love.  I brought this out in my article Christ’s view of humanity.  The evidence of this love was the sacrificial death of Jesus Christ upon the Cross.

Jesus repeatedly admonished his disciples, his followers to love one another, as He had loved us.  To have that attitude that we should give our all for each other, even to the laying down of our lives.  Our sacrifice doesn’t always go that far, but if we look at it from the point of view that we esteem each other higher than we esteem ourselves, this great love works toward the good for all involved.   There is no force more powerful on the earth than Christian love.  God puts this love in our hearts through the Holy Spirit.

Love transforms.  It can turn a stony heart into a soft heart.  It can turn away wrath.  It can dispel bitterness, anger, envy, and other negative emotions.  It not only transforms the recipient of love, but it transforms the giver.  Love is one of the gifts of the Spirit, and is the greatest virtue of all, even greater than hope and faith.

Lastly, it’s important to realize that Love is the fulfillment of the Law (Romans 13:10).  Paul indicates here that because love doesn’t work any ill toward it’s neighbor, love fulfills all of the commandments of God.  The word love is repeated over and over in the New Testament in every aspect of our relationship to God, to each other, and very specifically in the relationship between a man and his wife.   Man is directly commanded to love his wife.  In Ephesians 5, Paul doesn’t emphasize the sexual aspect of marriage at all.

The Red Pill is very much focused on sexuality.  It is a strategy of sexual relationships between men and women, and in it’s theory, marriage or any other long-term relationship/commitment takes a back seat.  At its core is the idea that men, who achieve power through the aspect of aloofness from his world, recognizing his own value, should be able to use and discard anything, including women, according to his own self-interest, his own egotism.  He does this through domination.

While God does give man dominion over the world and expects him to establish that dominion, God’s ultimate purpose is to create a spiritual kingdom, not a carnal one, and so a sexuality loosed from the ideal of commitment, is contrary to God’s purpose which is love for each other and for God.  Commitment to love, agape, is very much at the core of our relationship to God, and His to us.  It’s core to our relationship to each other, and men and women are called of God to commit themselves to each other, not to use each other and discard like so much trash.

To those who have been used and abused by the circumstances of life, by the twin evils of Feminism and the manosphere, by the raw deal that life gives to us all, there is an answer.  The Spirit and the Bride (the Church) say Come.  We are bid to the banqueting table of God’s love for us, to the abundant love held out to us in Jesus Christ, that will shed into our hearts love for God and for each other.

Pamela Parizo © 2017