Oh wretched man that I am!

But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.  1 Corinthians 2:14

In order to fulfill the things of God, we must walk after the Spirit and not after the flesh.  As I stated in my article Two types of man, there are only two types.  No alphas, no gammas, etc.  There is a carnal man, which we are when we are born.  In order to attain Christ, we must be re-born in the Spirit (John 3:5).  Then we become a spiritual man.   The Apostle Paul goes into this in more depth in Romans 8 and in 1 Corinthians 15.

Let me emphasize that we come to Jesus, old things are passed away.  We put off our old man, and become a new man in Him.  This is because Jesus resides within our Temple.  We cannot become a new man of our own efforts.  This is carnal.  While the Mosaic Law was holy, it was imperfect because it was involved performing ordinances.  Jesus put away the Law for its imperfections.   We are in a New Covenant.  The glory of the Mosaic Law reached its end in Jesus.   Paul says in Romans 8:3-4

For what the law could not do, in that it was weak through the flesh, God sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh, and for sin, condemned sin in the flesh: That the righteousness of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.

Hebrews 7 goes into this in more depth, that the Mosaic Law made no man perfect.  That isn’t to say there are not things in the Mosaic Law that we still obey but they are included in the Law of Christ, for we know that the Law is fulfilled if we love God and love our neighbor.  Agape love fulfills the whole of the Law.

Paul said “If any man be in Christ he is a new creature.” 2 Corinthians 5:17  The spiritual man is a new creation, a new beginning.  We are no longer the same person we were before our re-birth.

I said that to say this, the Red Pill “Christians” (among them Donal Graeme) believe that a woman still possesses the same nature that she had before she became a Christian, that without a husband to control her through his “godly masculinity” she cannot overcome her “base” nature, and will forsake her wedding vows.  He believes that during much of history legal law kept woman’s base nature under control, but that with Feminism this is no longer possible.  While I agree with them that Feminism has sought to destroy the institution of marriage, and masculinity in our society the Christian manosphere denies the power of God to transform a woman from her natural self to a spiritual woman.  For indeed, what of women who have not a husband, virgins and widows?  How do they avoid the temptations of the flesh?  They have no godly man to adore and be attracted to (please!).  They may desire a husband, but they don’t run amuck without one.   They believe that the man exhibits the godly qualities to attract and hold her.   Is it not then Jesus Christ who works through her in their marriage?  Or is it the man?

A Christian woman certainly needs the spiritual leadership of a godly man.  I am not an egalitarian, and will be the first to admit that woman does need to submit to her husband in order to protect her from following in the deception of Eve.  This does not mean that women alone can be tempted or that man on his own can prevent that temptation.  It takes the power of the Holy Ghost and agape love to accomplish this.  Ephesians 5 is accomplished through agape love, but agape love is only possible through the workings of the Holy Ghost.   Demonstration of the Spirit.

Galatians says that self-control is one of the fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:23).  While the head of man is Christ, it still requires the Holy Spirit working in the woman to follow her husband in godliness.  Without the power of the Spirit, no amount of righteousness on his part is going to make her follow him.  No amount of faith, self-control, etc, etc.  is going to get her to submit to his leadership.  I have seen women walk away from godly men walking in the Spirit simply because she fell away from the Spirit, and lost faith.

Woman naturally has a desire to control her husband.  She can only overcome this through the power of the Spirit which will help her to submit to him.   Man is required to love her as Christ loved the Church, sacrificially, providing her the spiritual leadership that she needs to insulate her from external temptations.  Her husband then reinforces the power of the Spirit working in her, by teaching her, leading her.   Self-control is of the Spirit, not of her attraction to her husband’s godliness.  Both man and woman are tempted of Satan to forsake wedding vows if they do not maintain their marital relationship (1 Corinthians 7), not just woman, so it’s vital that in addition to following the order of marriage, that they maintain the sexual aspect of marriage.   The man models Christ, but ultimately it is the Spirit that is going to accomplish these things.

Lastly, I want to emphasize that if it was only the man’s righteousness that kept a woman under control, this would negate 1 Peter 3:1 which indicates that a godly woman can win her unsaved husband through her submission to him.

The Red Pill Christians need to submit themselves to the power of the Holy Ghost so that they will understand that it is not by their power, nor their might but by demonstration of the power of the Spirit.  They must learn that their righteousness is as filthy rags, and that both man and woman need the Spirit in order to attain to stable Christian marriages.

Pamela Parizo © 2017

 

 

 

 

 

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The Ephesians 5 Model

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;  That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. Ephesians 5:25-27

While I recommend that husbands and wives read and practice the Ephesians 5 principles for their marriage, I want to key in on the above verses because I think they are essential to understanding that the union between Christ and the Church is what marriage is symbolic of.

When considering any action in marriage, a husband should take a look at how Christ interacts with the Church and then ask himself, whether Christ would behave in that manner toward His people.   Jesus’ love for the church is sacrificial, it’s unconditional and it’s commited.  Jesus’ love is the highest form of love there is, and a husband should model it.  Likewise a woman should judge her own actions by the callings to which Jesus has for the Church and ask herself whether the Church would treat Christ in the manner in which she is treating her husband.

When a spouse distances themselves from their partner, or at worst, is unfaithful to them, it’s important to look at the Bible to see how to treat these problems, because relying on the wisdom of men can severely damage a relationship and end any hope for it.

In the Rational Male, Rollo Tomassi puts forward the rule that power belongs to the partner who needs the other the least.  So he (and the Red Pill follows this as well) puts forward the idea that a man should remain aloof from his partner, that he should develop external interests and that a wife or female partner should not be at the center of the man’s life.  And yet, they would have the female strongly desire them to the point where they are willing to create such an uncertainty in the woman that she will pursue them.  It’s the height of manipulation, and even Machievellian when one thinks of the way these men are exploiting females in their lives.

The ideal that a woman should not be a core part of the man’s life is contrary to Biblical doctrine.  Woman was created to be a help to the man, a support in his dominion role within the world and in a marriage, he is to treat her as Christ treats the Church.  The Bride is central to Jesus’ mission of salvation.  In fact, it is the medium through which He expresses his mission.  His bride glorifies Him.

Also, the Red Pill “games” are contrary not only to a Christian relationship, but are contrary to the core principle of agape love.  True intimacy comes through honesty, and deceit and dishonest will destroy a relationship.

Ephesians 5 demonstrates a model of marriage based on Jesus and His Bride with the core principle of agape love binding them together.  Through the Spirit of Jesus, that is through the self-sacrificing love that He has for us, a woman can submit herself to her husband, and the husband can love his wife as Jesus loves the Church.  This is the plan that God has for man and wife, that they give to each other and live in the harmony of an ordered relationship, glorifying Jesus Christ.

Pamela Parizo © 2017

Rule #3: Love, not sex, is the answer

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity (LOVE), I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.  And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.  And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.  1 Corinthians 13:1-3

The Beatles once sang, “All You Need Is Love”,  and while I don’t hold them up as being models of behavior or for anything else, they were right in this.  God is Love.  His greatest attribute is Love.  I brought this out in my article Christ’s view of humanity.  The evidence of this love was the sacrificial death of Jesus Christ upon the Cross.

Jesus repeatedly admonished his disciples, his followers to love one another, as He had loved us.  To have that attitude that we should give our all for each other, even to the laying down of our lives.  Our sacrifice doesn’t always go that far, but if we look at it from the point of view that we esteem each other higher than we esteem ourselves, this great love works toward the good for all involved.   There is no force more powerful on the earth than Christian love.  God puts this love in our hearts through the Holy Spirit.

Love transforms.  It can turn a stony heart into a soft heart.  It can turn away wrath.  It can dispel bitterness, anger, envy, and other negative emotions.  It not only transforms the recipient of love, but it transforms the giver.  Love is one of the gifts of the Spirit, and is the greatest virtue of all, even greater than hope and faith.

Lastly, it’s important to realize that Love is the fulfillment of the Law (Romans 13:10).  Paul indicates here that because love doesn’t work any ill toward it’s neighbor, love fulfills all of the commandments of God.  The word love is repeated over and over in the New Testament in every aspect of our relationship to God, to each other, and very specifically in the relationship between a man and his wife.   Man is directly commanded to love his wife.  In Ephesians 5, Paul doesn’t emphasize the sexual aspect of marriage at all.

The Red Pill is very much focused on sexuality.  It is a strategy of sexual relationships between men and women, and in it’s theory, marriage or any other long-term relationship/commitment takes a back seat.  At its core is the idea that men, who achieve power through the aspect of aloofness from his world, recognizing his own value, should be able to use and discard anything, including women, according to his own self-interest, his own egotism.  He does this through domination.

While God does give man dominion over the world and expects him to establish that dominion, God’s ultimate purpose is to create a spiritual kingdom, not a carnal one, and so a sexuality loosed from the ideal of commitment, is contrary to God’s purpose which is love for each other and for God.  Commitment to love, agape, is very much at the core of our relationship to God, and His to us.  It’s core to our relationship to each other, and men and women are called of God to commit themselves to each other, not to use each other and discard like so much trash.

To those who have been used and abused by the circumstances of life, by the twin evils of Feminism and the manosphere, by the raw deal that life gives to us all, there is an answer.  The Spirit and the Bride (the Church) say Come.  We are bid to the banqueting table of God’s love for us, to the abundant love held out to us in Jesus Christ, that will shed into our hearts love for God and for each other.

Pamela Parizo © 2017

 

Rule # 2: Self-sacrifice vs. selfishness

This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.  For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,  Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,  Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;  Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.  2 Timothy 3:1-5

Rollo Tomassi’s The Rational Male is largely built on a foundation of self-importance, on promoting dominance and power, and dominating women in order to use them for one’s pleasure.   It  is similar to Ayn Rand’s philosophy of selfishness as a virtue.  He builds his house on shoddy philosophy (solipsism, for example, is refuted by most philosophers, but he uses it extensively to denigrade women) and pop psychology.  Some of his views on evolutionary psychology are diametrical to the research performed by others more reputable in the field.  He does so to tap into the bitterness and anger of the Men’s Rights Movement fueled as a backlash against Feminism.

From a Christian standpoint, we can see that selfishness and self-interest are opposed to the sacrificial love that Jesus represents.  If one gets anything out of the New Covenant, is that we are to love others as we love ourselves.  When we seek the best interest of our loved ones, our Christian brothers and sisters, everyone is better for it.

Jesus represents the core of this sacrificial model of love, loving us so much that He went to the Cross for our sakes.  Isaiah 53 goes into more depth as to the suffering He went through that we could be made whole.  The Old Testament type of this would be Hosea, the husband who loved his wife unconditionally and sacrificially, yet redeemed her so that he could be her husband and not her lord.   Jesus offers up the perfect sacrifice of His blood in order to atone for our sins.

Jesus told His followers to deny themselves, to surrender their lives so that they could find life in him.  There is no room for selfishness in Jesus’ world.  Love one another, put the other’s needs before your own, submit yourselves one to another.  These are admonishments that oppose the hedonistic lifestyle of pleasure that Rollo is self-interested in.  Power in oneself rather than God.  Pleasure in oneself rather than God.

Though he admits men are egotistical, Rollo differentiates (indeed, tries to validate) this self-centered life from what he sees as female egotism by saying it is rational self-interest as opposed to the pragmatic survival egotism of women.  In other words, a woman sacrificing her own needs for her children is not truly self-sacrificing because she sees them as an extension of self, whereas a man exploiting women for his own pleasure is ok.   His loudest cry then is that women do not sacrifice themselves for their man.

The Bible makes it clear that we are all, man and woman, to be Christ-centered.   The Apostle Paul uses the phrase, “Christ who is our  life” in Colossians 3:4.   A man must sacrifice his desire to please himself, and please Christ.  A woman must surrender her desire for her children to Christ.  Any Christian who thinks of his own pleasures above what God wants for him is not being led by the Holy Ghost.   Particularly if they align themselves with those who advocate a pleasure-seeking lifestyle.  The red pill blogger Dalrock needs to seriously examine his faith since he closely aligns himself with Rollo Tomassi and his woman-hating philosophy.   Christianity has no place for lovers of self.

The Ephesians 5 model for marriage is based on self-sacrificial love.  Agape love, that is one that is committed to the other, shows affection to the other, and holds the other in high esteem.  It is the love of Christ for the Church, and the love of the Church for Jesus.   Indeed, even before the chapter delves into the marriage relationship, it holds forth the offering and sacrifice of Jesus as the love we are to have for each other as Christians.   Women are to submit themselves to their husbands, to reverence them.  Men are to sacrifice themselves for their wives, loving her as they would their own flesh, nourishing and cherishing her.  There isn’t any room for selfish desires in this model.

Jesus gave Himself for the Church, in order to wash it and sanctify it through baptism according to His word, so that He could present it to Himself.  The Bride glorifies Jesus through her holiness and is glorious for the glory He brings to her through HIs love for her.  That is the love a man ought to have for His wife.

When one sees value in others, when one loves others, one is truly loving oneself, and bringing glory to oneself.   That is the glory of Jesus Christ.  There is no greater power and no greater love than that exemplified by Him when He laid down His life for us.

Pamela Parizo © 2017