Rule #4: Power comes from God

There is no man that hath power over the spirit to retain the spirit; neither hath he power in the day of death: and there is no discharge in that war; neither shall wickedness deliver those that are given to it.–Ecclesiastes 8:8

All power comes from God.  He made the Universe and everything in it, within 6 days.  He did so just by speaking things into existence.  God set man over His creation on earth, giving him dominion over all the creatures of the earth.

God is in control of everything that exists.  While man can manipulate his environment to some extent, the things a man has can be taken from him.  The Book of Job points to a test between God and Satan to test the righteous man Job.  Within a process of time, Job’s sons, his material wealth, even his health are taken from him.  One can see from the example of Job how the physical things of this life can be taken away from one.  I have seen very healthy men acquire physical disease.  One only has to look at the example of John Kennedy, Jr., a man who had everything, who was killed in a flying accident.  For a man then to think he has the power is a gross absurdity.

The Red Pill advocates that a man, which they call alpha which the Bible does not even recognize (see my article on Two types of man) can obtain power through his domination of his environment.  This includes women, which the red pill gives very little value to, except in so much that women have sexual value.  To red pill men, women are only valuable as long as they are young and attractive and can be used in a sexual manner either through a committed relationship or through amoral sex.  Rollo Tomassi, in his Red Pill devotional, The Rational Male explains that power in relationships is obtained by the person who needs the other the least.

First, God alone holds power and to whom He will give it (1).  Jesus Christ said “All power is given to me in heaven and in earth.” (2) Jesus received all power as God manifest in flesh, and shed abroad the Holy Ghost on the Day of Pentecost.  He told the disciples they should go to Jerusalem and wait for the promise of the Father, saying “And ye shall receive power after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you (3).    The only way to have power in God’s kingdom is to receive the Spirit of God.

Red Pill “Alt-Christianity”, for it is not true Christianity, would have men come to the altar of the red pill rather than to the source of true power, Jesus Christ.   It would rather they be lovers of themselves, hedonistically seeing marriage as sexual alone in nature, and aligning themselves with those who deny women’s inherent value as a creation of God and deny that Christ alone is sufficient to combat the evils of Feminism.  Somehow evolutionary psychology saves the day for these Alt-Christians and restores their true masculinity.  They epitomize the admonition of Paul that in the last days men would be lovers of self, and lovers of pleasure rather than God, having a form of godliness but denying the power thereof (4).

The Bible tells us to turn away from these types of people because they do deny the power of God.  The Red Pill (secular) upholds evolutionary psychology which is contrary to Christ in its amoral approach to relationships, and the Christian version is still bad for Christian men as it still reduces women to a sexual market value, aligns itself with the amoral red pill advocates, and does not lead men to Christ.  It denies the power of God to transform people, and see themselves as the controlling factor in relationships rather than the Spirit and the agape love of Jesus.

From such, turn away.

Pamela Parizo © 2017

 

Footnotes:

(1) Psalm 62:11

(2) Matthew 28:18

(3) Acts 1:8

(4) 2 Timothy 3:5

 

 

 

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A Woman’s capacity for agape love

Wherefore I say unto thee, Her sins, which are many, are forgiven; for she loved much: but to whom little is forgiven, the same loveth little.–Luke 7:47

Red pill theory would diminish a woman’s capacity for great love.   In fact, they will say it is beyond a woman’s nature to love unconditionally, that a woman loves her husband for what he can provide her.  What these people are missing is that a woman desires her husband to provide for her because that is a promise from God.  Out of the Law of Moses, a man is to provide for his wife.   So is the Law incorrect because man’s philosophy/psychology says that woman is wrong to want a man’s resources?  God forbid; let God be true and every man a liar.  Is a man excused from this because of Christ?  How much more should a husband who is portraying Christ and his sacrificial love to his wife provide for her out of his worldly goods?    Christian women are not looking for wealth; if they are, their focus is wrong.  What they are looking for is the support of their husbands.

With that said, let’s transfer that picture to Jesus.  Does a woman love God for what He can provide her alone?  Or is she capable of loving the Lord her God with all her heart and mind and soul?  Let’s take a look at the New Testament text to see what it says.

First, we know that the first and greatest commandment is to love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, soul, mind and strength (Mark 12:30).  This commandment is to all Christians, both men and women.    The Greek word used for love in this verse is agapao, that is agape love.  So we know that not only can a woman love God in this manner, but she is commanded to, even though he is her Lord and master, and superior to her in all things.   So, we can see that the superior/subordinate construct has no effect on the capacity for agape love.  We do know that as Christians, we all love God because He first loved us, but we also can see that we are expected to return that love from our inner being.

Second, we know that a woman is specifically said to have loved Jesus much.  In Luke 7:47, the woman in Simon’s house who came to wash his feet with her hair, is forgiven of her sins and Jesus says, her sins which are many, are forgiven her for she loved much.   Again, the word used for love is agapao.  The woman loves him much as her Lord.

In Ephesians, chapter 5, husbands are commanded to love their wives as Christ loved the Church and gave himself for it.  The word is agapao.  Because this passage does not likewise command women to love their husbands, many assume a woman cannot or should not show agape love to their spouse.    I would like to submit, that if the husband is portraying Christ, and that if a woman can and should show Christ agape love, there is nothing to say a woman cannot show agape love toward her husband.  She is commanded to love God with agape love, shown to love Christ with agape love.

In the Song of Solomon in the Septuagint ( a Greek translation of the Hebrew), the Jewish scholars used the word egapesen in the phrase “him whom my soul loveth”.   This is the same word found in many verses in the New Testament reflecting Christ’s love for us.    The Jewish scholars of the Septuagint felt then that a woman does have the capacity for agape love for her husband.  Although their use of agape for ahav is controversial, they certainly did not feel that agape was outside the emotional capacity of a woman’s nature.  This is the same form of agapao that is used in Luke 7:47.

Having already shown that a woman is capable of agape love, I put forward my opinion that in the act of submission there is a component of agape love.  Just as we love our Lord and surrender ourselves completely to Him, putting our trust in Him, a woman, through the act of submission is showing her husband her love for him.  We are definitely called to submission through obedience, but love and trust are important.  It reminds me of the passage in Exodus 21:5 where the servant says “I love my master” and chooses to stay as a servant rather than go free.  Now, I say this by opinion, not as fact.   This is definitely a choice a woman makes when she marries a man, knowing that she is called to submit to and obey him.

Those who feel a woman incapable of loving her husband as he is are following after erroneous pseudo-science and philosophies, the vain deceits of men.

Pamela Parizo © 2017

Rule #3: Love, not sex, is the answer

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity (LOVE), I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.  And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.  And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.  1 Corinthians 13:1-3

The Beatles once sang, “All You Need Is Love”,  and while I don’t hold them up as being models of behavior or for anything else, they were right in this.  God is Love.  His greatest attribute is Love.  I brought this out in my article Christ’s view of humanity.  The evidence of this love was the sacrificial death of Jesus Christ upon the Cross.

Jesus repeatedly admonished his disciples, his followers to love one another, as He had loved us.  To have that attitude that we should give our all for each other, even to the laying down of our lives.  Our sacrifice doesn’t always go that far, but if we look at it from the point of view that we esteem each other higher than we esteem ourselves, this great love works toward the good for all involved.   There is no force more powerful on the earth than Christian love.  God puts this love in our hearts through the Holy Spirit.

Love transforms.  It can turn a stony heart into a soft heart.  It can turn away wrath.  It can dispel bitterness, anger, envy, and other negative emotions.  It not only transforms the recipient of love, but it transforms the giver.  Love is one of the gifts of the Spirit, and is the greatest virtue of all, even greater than hope and faith.

Lastly, it’s important to realize that Love is the fulfillment of the Law (Romans 13:10).  Paul indicates here that because love doesn’t work any ill toward it’s neighbor, love fulfills all of the commandments of God.  The word love is repeated over and over in the New Testament in every aspect of our relationship to God, to each other, and very specifically in the relationship between a man and his wife.   Man is directly commanded to love his wife.  In Ephesians 5, Paul doesn’t emphasize the sexual aspect of marriage at all.

The Red Pill is very much focused on sexuality.  It is a strategy of sexual relationships between men and women, and in it’s theory, marriage or any other long-term relationship/commitment takes a back seat.  At its core is the idea that men, who achieve power through the aspect of aloofness from his world, recognizing his own value, should be able to use and discard anything, including women, according to his own self-interest, his own egotism.  He does this through domination.

While God does give man dominion over the world and expects him to establish that dominion, God’s ultimate purpose is to create a spiritual kingdom, not a carnal one, and so a sexuality loosed from the ideal of commitment, is contrary to God’s purpose which is love for each other and for God.  Commitment to love, agape, is very much at the core of our relationship to God, and His to us.  It’s core to our relationship to each other, and men and women are called of God to commit themselves to each other, not to use each other and discard like so much trash.

To those who have been used and abused by the circumstances of life, by the twin evils of Feminism and the manosphere, by the raw deal that life gives to us all, there is an answer.  The Spirit and the Bride (the Church) say Come.  We are bid to the banqueting table of God’s love for us, to the abundant love held out to us in Jesus Christ, that will shed into our hearts love for God and for each other.

Pamela Parizo © 2017

 

The purpose of marriage and Dalrock’s double standard

While reading an post from earlier this year on insanitybytes’ blog, I came across this post regarding Dalrock, a red pill “Christian” blogger and found that it so aptly demonstrates his lack of commitment to Christian morality and his double standard regarding marriage.

https://dalrock.wordpress.com/2017/02/20/will-wilcox-and-the-men-of-national-review-respect-you-in-the-morning/

First, my thoughts on the purpose of marriage not only from a Biblical standpoint, but a societal one.  Dalrock makes clear in this article, this condemnation of the views of the National Review and others, that his idea about the purpose of marriage is to maintain sexual morality, which he rightly associates with 1 Corinthians chapter 7.  As I’ve stated on my blog The Glorious Wife, a little knowledge is a dangerous thing.  Dalrock evidently failed to read the book of Genesis.

The first commandment God gives to men and women is to “Be fruitful, multiply and replenish the earth”.  So one of the first purposes God has for marriage is reproduction.  Second, God, prior to the creation of woman out of man, looks around and says, “It is not good for man to be alone, I will make for him a help meet.”  God saw that man needed a help suitable for him.  This isn’t just sexual;  God intended that woman should help man in his endeavours in maintaining dominion over the earth.  Someone to share his life and missions with and to assist him in them.   He gave man and woman a desire for each other, to know each other so that they would reproduce, but it is, as Dalrock pointed out, also to maintain morality in relationships.    Lastly, before getting into the societal reasons for this, I would point to Ephesians 5, which perhaps he also hasn’t read, which states that the relationship of a man and wife is symbolic of the eternal marriage between Christ and His bride, the Church.  

From a societal, or even communal standpoint, monogamy, marriage stabilizes the society.   This is clear in the early 20th century work of anthropologist Dr. J. D. Unwin who showed that across time and across the world monogamous societies were more stable.   Take the family out of the society and it becomes unstable because people become depraved and hedonistic.  This happened in Rome and it is happening in the US.

Dalrock is vitriolic in his assessment of the National Reviews encouragement for men to marry, stating, “How can I know?  You just have to look at the long string of men that came before you, men they seduced with the very same lines.  Once the wedding is over, once the men of National Review have gotten what they wanted, the men who naively trusted them are discarded like yesterday’s trash.  Do you really believe you will be the special one, the one they don’t toss casually away once they get what they want?”

However, there are a couple of things that Dalrock fails to take into consideration.  He sees women as fickle (probably fed by his red pill view that women marry men only to provide a living and then move on to the romantic man of their dreams).   However, statistics show not only that age at marriage and education are huge factors in divorce, but that committed Christians are less likely to divorce than the general public.  So, rather than denigrade women as heartless wenches marrying and discarding, he should be encouraging men and women to marry later, get an education and be committed to Christ.

I would also like to point out that this is the root of Dalrock’s hypocrisy.  While he has no problem pointing out that the National Review, et. al. are encouraging men to marry and thus dooming many of them to the scourge of divorce, he has no problem marrying himself to the philosophy of Rollo Tomassi as espoused in the Rational Male.   Tomassi’s works not only strips woman of her inherent human value and reduces her to a sexual market value, allowing her to be used and discarded at a man’s pleasure (treated like a plate, a sexual object), and essentially saying her value is determined by the man, but his blogroll is full of people who feel the same way.  He never calls any of these men out for their heartless view of women, for belittling women’s sacrificial love while upholding man’s rights to self-interest and amoral power.

From Dalrock’s standpoint, love is sex, and the marital love expressed in the Bible is primarily sensual in nature.   While he states that women are due love and affection, it’s clear what his idea of that is.  A search of his blog shows very little about love and a lot about sexuality.  By advertising the Rational Male, Dalrock buys into the totality of its sordid attitude about women, and this is hypocritical as he calls out those who at least encourage men to make commitments while espousing himself to the ideals of Tomassi, which reflects a poor view of the value of women, indeed, allows them to be exploited and tossed aside like yesterday’s trash.

Jesus Christ values all humanity, He sees all humanity as sinful and in need of redemption, He sees only the carnal and the spiritual man, and the only power factor in His gospel is the transforming power of the Holy Ghost which can achieve far more in human relationships than red pill/evolutionary psychology theories could.  If Dalrock really cared about the plight of men ruined by Feminism, He would call them to the Cross and to the Upper Room.

In Jesus name

Pamela Parizo © 2017

 

Rule # 2: Self-sacrifice vs. selfishness

This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.  For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,  Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,  Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;  Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.  2 Timothy 3:1-5

Rollo Tomassi’s The Rational Male is largely built on a foundation of self-importance, on promoting dominance and power, and dominating women in order to use them for one’s pleasure.   It  is similar to Ayn Rand’s philosophy of selfishness as a virtue.  He builds his house on shoddy philosophy (solipsism, for example, is refuted by most philosophers, but he uses it extensively to denigrade women) and pop psychology.  Some of his views on evolutionary psychology are diametrical to the research performed by others more reputable in the field.  He does so to tap into the bitterness and anger of the Men’s Rights Movement fueled as a backlash against Feminism.

From a Christian standpoint, we can see that selfishness and self-interest are opposed to the sacrificial love that Jesus represents.  If one gets anything out of the New Covenant, is that we are to love others as we love ourselves.  When we seek the best interest of our loved ones, our Christian brothers and sisters, everyone is better for it.

Jesus represents the core of this sacrificial model of love, loving us so much that He went to the Cross for our sakes.  Isaiah 53 goes into more depth as to the suffering He went through that we could be made whole.  The Old Testament type of this would be Hosea, the husband who loved his wife unconditionally and sacrificially, yet redeemed her so that he could be her husband and not her lord.   Jesus offers up the perfect sacrifice of His blood in order to atone for our sins.

Jesus told His followers to deny themselves, to surrender their lives so that they could find life in him.  There is no room for selfishness in Jesus’ world.  Love one another, put the other’s needs before your own, submit yourselves one to another.  These are admonishments that oppose the hedonistic lifestyle of pleasure that Rollo is self-interested in.  Power in oneself rather than God.  Pleasure in oneself rather than God.

Though he admits men are egotistical, Rollo differentiates (indeed, tries to validate) this self-centered life from what he sees as female egotism by saying it is rational self-interest as opposed to the pragmatic survival egotism of women.  In other words, a woman sacrificing her own needs for her children is not truly self-sacrificing because she sees them as an extension of self, whereas a man exploiting women for his own pleasure is ok.   His loudest cry then is that women do not sacrifice themselves for their man.

The Bible makes it clear that we are all, man and woman, to be Christ-centered.   The Apostle Paul uses the phrase, “Christ who is our  life” in Colossians 3:4.   A man must sacrifice his desire to please himself, and please Christ.  A woman must surrender her desire for her children to Christ.  Any Christian who thinks of his own pleasures above what God wants for him is not being led by the Holy Ghost.   Particularly if they align themselves with those who advocate a pleasure-seeking lifestyle.  The red pill blogger Dalrock needs to seriously examine his faith since he closely aligns himself with Rollo Tomassi and his woman-hating philosophy.   Christianity has no place for lovers of self.

The Ephesians 5 model for marriage is based on self-sacrificial love.  Agape love, that is one that is committed to the other, shows affection to the other, and holds the other in high esteem.  It is the love of Christ for the Church, and the love of the Church for Jesus.   Indeed, even before the chapter delves into the marriage relationship, it holds forth the offering and sacrifice of Jesus as the love we are to have for each other as Christians.   Women are to submit themselves to their husbands, to reverence them.  Men are to sacrifice themselves for their wives, loving her as they would their own flesh, nourishing and cherishing her.  There isn’t any room for selfish desires in this model.

Jesus gave Himself for the Church, in order to wash it and sanctify it through baptism according to His word, so that He could present it to Himself.  The Bride glorifies Jesus through her holiness and is glorious for the glory He brings to her through HIs love for her.  That is the love a man ought to have for His wife.

When one sees value in others, when one loves others, one is truly loving oneself, and bringing glory to oneself.   That is the glory of Jesus Christ.  There is no greater power and no greater love than that exemplified by Him when He laid down His life for us.

Pamela Parizo © 2017

 

All mankind is sinful

What then? are we better than they? No, in no wise: for we have before proved both Jews and Gentiles, that they are all under sin;  As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one:  There is none that understandeth, there is none that seeketh after God….For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;  Romans 3:9-11, 23

The red pill is full of generalizations that red pill proponents, and Rollo Tomassi like to pass of as iron-clad rules.  AWALT (all women are like that) is just one of many.  If it is based in the biology of women, then yes, there can be some basis for it, but many of their theories are not.  Even the theory that women are attracted to men based on what they can provide is not a hard and fast rule observable in society.    While generalizations can be true according to logic, they have to be verified.    The red pill likes to paint women as egocentric, which I am going to put forward as not being verified.   However, I will have to go into that in more depth later.    From my readings, I am not seeing any kind of empirical evidence, but rather theory, even in Rollo Tomassi’s writings, that all women are egocentric.

My purpose for this article, however, is to show that from a biblical standpoint, all men and women are failures in their nature.  No one person can say they are righteous.   Not when they are held up to God’s standards.  The Mosaic Law while holding up righteous laws and principles, could not be upheld by a people who were still living in the carnal natures they inherited from Adam.   The Law failed, because as Paul points out, perfection cannot come through our flesh.  It has to come through the Spirit of God.

Adam and Eve’s failure in the Garden of Eden, which I will write on soon, showed that both men and women are susceptible to temptation and sin.  Eve failed, because as a woman she is susceptible to being deceived.  Adam failed because he willfully disobeyed God, not being able to exercise self-control and retain his dominion, not only over Creation, but over himself.

In regards to our modern society, both men and women need to realize that they are sinful in order to make things right.  Feminism is a highly destructive force fueled by socialism and tries to invert God’s order, establishing the rule of women.  However, the Men’s Movement, of which the Red Pill is part, and Rollo Tomassi specifically, do not correct things.  They purport that they are trying to restore masculinity, but they do this at the expense of women, which is clearly against God’s principles and purpose for His Creation.   The only hope for humanity as a whole is for all, men, women, Jew, Gentile, to come to Jesus Christ and let him restore Godly order.

Mankind, in it’s natural state, cannot make himself perfect.  We fail.  Our flesh tempts us.  We are all in that sense selfish, only wanting to please our flesh.   Paul goes into this at length in Romans 8 when he shows how his body wants to do one thing and his mind tries to correct it.  He at last exclaims, “O wretched man that I am! who shall deliver me from the body of this death? (1)”    Lust takes root in our hearts and sin is the product.  The Law gave a temporary solution in that it allowed for atonement of sins, but it was not perfect because it was carried out by priests who would eventually die themselves.

Jesus Christ became the perfect sacrifice for our sins in that He was without sin, and because He lives forever to make intercession for us, so that the intercession, the atonement is continual before God.  We repent of our sinful nature, turn from sin, and die off to ourselves daily.   This is the only way that both men and women can become righteous and to deny our selfish natures.

 

Footnotes:

(1) Romans 7:24

Christ’s view of humanity

In assessing the red pill of view of humanity, which is based on evolutionary psychology, it’s important as Christian’s to establish how Jesus viewed humanity in general and women specifically.

We know that God loved humanity so much, that He gave the Son to be the savior of the world (1).  God’s love is unconditional in that God chooses to love us.  He set His love upon us.  That is because His nature is Love.  (2).  We know that He loved us before we ever loved Him. (3).   God’s love for us is expressed through the giving of His Spirit (4) and through Jesus Christ specifically (5) .  God is rich in mercy toward us, His people, and His love for us is great (6).  If we are born of God, we have God’s love in us and love one another (7).  If we love one another, God’s love is perfected in us (8).  We cannot say we love God and not love one another (1 John 4:20).

While we were sinners, Jesus died for us (10).  Nothing can separate us from the love of Jesus (11).  Jesus loved us and so gave Himself for us.  So ought we to give ourselves for each other.

When we look at the Old Testament, we see a culture steeped in patriarchy.    This is the Hebraic world, a theocracy ruled by God through the King, the judge, the priest, or the prophet.  But men were always in control.  This is the way God designed it, and it is right.  However, that never presupposes that God sees women as second-class citizens, as not part of his creation, as not useful outside the domain of the  home.  On occasion, God did use women with spiritual gifts, or for other purposes outside their role as wife/homemaker.  Deborah, Jael, Miriam, Esther, Ruth, Huldah all point to this.

The language of Genesis reflects that God sees women as made in His image, that while woman is subordinate to man in their relationship, she is still important to his plan (indeed, the promise to crush the serpent’s head is given to her, not to Adam).   Women are subject to men overall but that doesn’t say that God does not hold man accountable for his treatment of her.   A man who took more than one wife could not treat the one better than the other.  He owed woman the duties of marriage (food, clothing and marital intimacy).  Wives were never treated like slaves. 

In the New Testament, although it is a different culture in that Israel had become Romanized and Hellenized, the hierarchy of men prevails and is prevalent in the church structure.  This does not mean women did not have some freedom of movement, and women were very active in the work of the Gospel.   Women were not consistently under the rulership of a male relative except her husband, but male authority is present through church leadership.     Women continued to show uses in the Kingdom of God external to their role as homemaker/wife; they were some of the most important witnesses that Jesus had.  Women could possess spiritual gifts since they, like men, also received the Spirit.   This does not diminish the importance of her role in supporting the home, which is vital for women to understand, particularly in light of feminism.

The Red Pill and more specifically the work of Rollo Tomassi reduce the value of women to a sexual object, so that her role within the home is secondary.  This philosophy exploits women’s sexuality–it was never God’s intent that men should receive women’s sexuality without owing her his protection and resources.   Indeed, Christianity restricts all sexuality to marriage, so any philosophy that empowers men to use women as playthings or as plates to spin is contrary to the purpose God has for women, and for the men they are married to.  Marriage glorifies the woman, and by extension, brings glory to her husband.  A good wife is the greatest gift a man can give to himself (12).

Footnotes:

(1) John 3:16

(2) 1 John 4:8

(3) 1 John 4:10

(4) Romans 5:5

(5) Romans 8:39

(6) Ephesians 2:4

(7) 1 John 4:7

(8) 1 John 4:12

(9) 1 John 4:20

(10) Romans 5:8

(11) Romans 8:39

(12) Ephesians 5:27

Pamela Parizo © 2017