Evil Works of Darkness

This is a reblog of a post I had on my main site, The Glorious Wife.

Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?   And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?  And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people. 2 Corinthians 6:14-16

As Christians, we often use this verse to indicate that Christians should not marry or do business with unbelievers, but I think it extends well beyond those.  We can marry the ideology of unbelievers to such an extent that our works become unrecognizable as being of Jesus Christ.

The Gospel of Jesus Christ is one built upon the truth of the Word of God and the power of the Holy Ghost.  Anything that has a different foundation should be approached with trepidation by those espousing Christ.   The Holy Ghost dwells in us–Paul asks, how can we who are God’s temple have agreement with idols?  And there are terrible idols in this world that want to rob a man of his soul.    The twin idols of Feminism and the Manosphere are such idols, and if a Christian agrees with these, then how can he or she be a child of light?

Man and woman were both created of God.  We were created to be temples of the Holy Spirit.  Both have value in God’s eyes.  All flesh has sinned and fallen short of the glory of the Almighty God.   When either a man or a woman does not have God, we are both capable of great depravity and wickedness.  The scriptures emphasize that both man and woman sinned in the Garden.  Adam’s sin was not about ceding his dominion to his wife. His sin was listening to her rather than to God and eating, willfully, the fruit he was forbidden to eat.    The scripture doesn’t say anything about giving up his dominion.   But because of his sin, he lost dominion.  He could not rule over himself.  Women are not inherently more evil than man is.   Women are weaker physically and in their emotions, and because of this, woman was deceived.   For this reason, women need to be under the headship of man, either through their husband or through other spiritual leaders.

There is a Men’s Movement that wants to demonize women, picture men as being victims of Feminism, which is true to an extent, and their aim is to subjugate and objectify women, rather than rescue men AND women from the evils Feminism has done to our society.  Rather than help men, it creates a greater breach between the sexes and makes them into cold, agressive animals.   One prominent writer, Rollo Tomassi perpetuates the idea that women are opportunistic (i.e., without moral principle) and dishonest in their personal relationships, and that rationalism (evolutionary psychology and social constructs) are the hope for the male of the species.

One has to ask, what would a Christian, who knows the light of Jesus Christ, who has the Holy Spirit within them, or puts their faith in the word of God and not in the wisdom of men, find to agree with in these principles?  There are men who follow this movement who like to speak of the Christian manosphere.   The only manner in which there is a hierarchy of men within Christianity is through the principle of headship.  Other than that, the guiding rules of this movement have no place in the lives of Christian men who profess Jesus Christ.  Women are not inherently opportunistic and dishonest any more than men are, and need the spiritual leadership of men, not deceitful manipulations. Women need men to help them live holy, chaste lives, not to be told their only purpose is to serve men and be their sex objects.

Men who consider themselves Christians must sincerely examine their faiths to see where their trust is.  Jesus is about honesty, love, helping each other to press toward the mark of perfect righteousness, not guile, deceit, hate of women, objectification of women, legalism, offering no hope, joy, peace or love.  Men who consider themselves Christians will rebuke, rather than make agreement with evil works of darkness

Pamela Parizo © 2017


Two types of man

This is a copy of a post I created for my other blog, The Glorious Wife

That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts; And be renewed in the spirit of your mind; And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.  Ephesians 4:22-24

Mankind, which includes women, is divided into two distinct types.  The carnal man and the spiritual man.  These typologies override all others, as at the end of the day, at the end of the book (Revelation), there are only going to be two types, and our destinies will be determined by which we fall into.

The carnal man is the man who is earthy.  All creation are descendants of the first couple, Adam and Eve.  Consequently, we have their same natures, their DNA,  and are subject to temptations and failure just as they were.   Even if we are able to “control” ourselves, we are not fulfilling God’s purposes but our own.

What happened in the Garden was a foreshadowing of this.  Adam and Eve, by their own carnal, earthy natures, made of flesh and of blood, failed.  They gave in to temptation, they allowed sin to overpower them.   Because of this, they tried to cover their sins with their own covering of fig leaves.  We realize we are naked, and we try to cover up that nakedness on our own.

But God knew something more was required.  He slew an animal, and covered them in coats of skins (like a fur coat).  God required a sacrifice to cover them.  This is both a foreshadow of the Law and of the ultimate sacrifice of Jesus Christ.  It’s my humble opinion that the animal was a lamb.

The lesson of the Garden is, the carnal man is subject to sin and temptation and has to be put off so that we can put on the new, spiritual man.  This is why Jesus came, to put away our sins, and to make a way for us to enter into God’s rest, the Holy Spirit.

Red pill theory teaches that men are subdivided according to their natural qualities and abilities.  It exalts the alpha male, which is based on innate or developed natural qualities, which have nothing to do with the spiritual man.  Rollo Tomassi ascribes to this, as do Alt-Christian red pill proponents.  One cannot develop oneself into a spiritual man.  One can only be spiritual if one is born spiritually through the Holy Ghost.  Jesus himself said “That which is born of flesh is flesh, that which is born of spirit is spirit.” (John 3:6)

The spiritual man is created when we receive God’s Spirit within us and are led by that Spirit.   John 1:12 says, “But as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name:”  All creation groans and travails for the manifestation of the sons of God, which are those who are filled with His Spirit as the disciples were on the Day of Pentecost.  God’s spirit dwells in us and enables us to overcome the old nature, the old Adamic man.

Power doesn’t come through our own self-will.  It comes by surrendering ourselves to the Holy Spirit and allowing Christ to live within us.  It comes through being led by His Spirit.  It’s only then that we can conceive of what it means to die off to ourselves and let Him be in the middle of everything we do.  We are no longer living for what we want, what we think is right, but what is demanded of us by Jesus and His love.

This is also the key to understanding Ephesians 5.  When this passage speaks of Christ’s self-sacrifice for the Church, this is how a man ought to love his wife.   This isn’t just talking about the daily sacrifices that a man makes in his marriage.  If we look at this in terms of a marriage with Christ as the Bridegroom and we the Bride–Jesus died off to himself in order to see His wife made holy.  He died off to his self-will (Gethsemane) and went to the Cross for her.   He did this so that she could receive the best of His love: the hope that is shed abroad by the Holy Spirit.  So that they could become one.  A man cannot be selfish in his desires for his marriage.  He can’t be concerned only with what is best for himself, but also what will help his wife to become her best.  After all, she is the reflection of his glory.   The more Christ-centered a man is, the more he can impart to his wife the virtues of a Christian walk, leading her in a love for Jesus.

I want to emphasize here that when we seek to do things through our own self-wills, through our own natural force of strength, we will fail.  Serving Jesus is not about self-will.  It’s important to know God’s commandments, to know what is required, but we also have to realize that it takes the Holy Spirit, and our spiritual discernment in order to accomplish those things.  God said, it’s not by might, nor by power but by demonstration of the Spirit.

Submission and leadership isn’t accomplished through man’s natural strength, his superior frame, his superior intellect.  It’s accomplished through the workings of the Spirit.   I like the old adage that Marriage Takes Three.  It takes Jesus to bring together the man and the woman in a marriage that serves Him and glorifies Him.   A man who is filled with the Holy Ghost will lead His wife spiritually and seek what’s best for their marriage and for her.  A woman who is filled with the Holy Ghost will submit herself to the leadership of a husband and seek to glorify him through her godly behavior, in chastity, holiness and modesty with an obedient heart.

As Christians, we should study the spiritual man, what the Bible says about being new creatures in Jesus.  The old, carnal man, our “evolutionary” man so to speak, is put away.  DNA has nothing to do with the spiritual man, because Jesus does away with what our human nature tells us to do and it is His spirit that leads us and not ourselves.  The Bible tells us that the outer man, that is our flesh, dies, while the inner man, the man of the heart, the new Christian man, is being renewed every day (2 Corinthians 4:16).

Pamela Parizo © 2017




Rule #1: Human Value

All human beings have value in God.   The New Testament shows that God loved humanity so much that He gave the Son to be the Savior of the world (1).  His word tells us that Jesus did not come into the world to condemn it, but that through Him, everyone may find salvation (2).  It is not His will that any person should perish, but that they might have everlasting life (3).  One can see the depth of God’s grace and love for humanity, so anyone that teaches that half of humanity is inherently evil (Tomassi says that there is no such thing as a quality woman and ascribes evil qualities to them all–see below) is teaching that women are more immoral, i.e., sinful, than men.  It is clear from the Genesis account and Romans chapter 3 that God sees all mankind as sinful and capable of evil.  One has to ask whether Tomassi feels there are any quality men?  Evidently he does, the men who follow his teachings and become men of power.

Man is valuable to God, but woman is also.  Paul said that the woman came from man, but man is born by woman (4).    God views women in a positive light.   Christianity is based on God’s love, and let me say God does love women.  Women, like men, are a part of His creation, and He has a purpose for women.  The Bible tells us that women are co-heirs with men in the grace of life.  Central to Christianity is the relationship between Jesus and His church, which is portrayed as an example of human marriage.  The core of this relationship is agape love, the pure, committed and sacrificial love that Jesus has for His bride, the Church.  Ephesians 5 and 1 Corinthians 11 states that woman is the glory of man, just as the Church glorifies Jesus.

The red pill views women as 1)narcissistic, egocentric (solipsistic) and opportunistic in her relationships.  It views women as sex objects, there to be exploited by dominant men.  The red pill claims that women want dominant men to control them, and can only respect a man that shows himself to be more powerful than she.

The red pill teaches that the value of women is their sexual attractiveness (market value) and yet conversely teaches that women must find a value apart from their sexuality, a Catch-22 since at the base of Tomassi’s teachings, the base of other red pill advocates’ (Roosh V and Roissy at Chateau Heartiste in particular)  is that ideal that these men of power should be able to freely use women sexually.    This view of women is at its base hateful toward women, stripping them of their instrinsic human value.

The Red Pill, though it does allow for long-term relationships and marriage, also teaches that a man of power remains aloof from his partner and uses deceit and dishonesty (game, dread) to enhance their intimate relationship.   Is desire the sum total of a woman’s value to her husband, indeed to any man?  Judaic teaching indicates that God views sexuality as involving the whole person, with love and affection, not just the physical pleasure.  Men who view women in this manner degrade the very person who gave them life.  If they can see all women as sexual objects, then they must see their mother, sister, daughter as merely objects for man’s pleasure.

God has a specific purpose for woman, and only part of it is the intimacy that she shares within marriage with her husband.   Although God purposed that man and woman have sexual intimacy in order to multiply and replenish the earth, it’s clear from Genesis 1 that God also intended woman to support man in his dominion role in whatever mission or work he is called to.

Any man who professes Jesus Christ will flee the red pill.   God intended that man protect women, and by aligning themselves with such derogatory view of women, what does that say of the man?  It robs him of his character, his integrity and indeed his own glory.  The red pill brings bitterness toward women, and fails to heal men who have had bad experiences due to feminism.  God’s truth heals, whereas the red pill will only bring enmity, bitterness, wrath and emptiness.

The Red Pill then is counter to the biblical principles of God’s love for all humanity in wanting to save them, of the sinful nature of both man and woman,  of agape love, and reduces woman to a sexual object created solely for man’s physical pleasure, by allowing men to exploit her, it strips of her role as a helper to man and robs man of his own glory.


(1) John 3:16, 1 John 4:14

(2) John 3:17

(3) 2 Peter 3:9

(4) 1 Corinthians 11:9

Pamela Parizo © 2017

The wisdom of God’s spirit

Now we have received, not the spirit of the world, but the spirit which is of God; that we might know the things that are freely given to us of God.  Which things also we speak, not in the words which man’s wisdom teacheth, but which the Holy Ghost teacheth; comparing spiritual things with spiritual.  But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.  1 Corinthians 2:12-14

The starting point in looking at any wisdom is whether it aligns with the wisdom taught by the Holy Ghost, the wisdom of the Bible.  That will be the focus of this blog, is to teach what the Bible preaches, and show how the red pill does not live up to it, either because it is tries to divert people from the truth, or because it is a partial truth.  Partial truth is error.

The very first thing I want to bring out is that the entire New Testament points us toward Jesus Christ.  If a philosophy, a wisdom does not point you toward Jesus, it is not true.  Our reliance must be on this fact, that Jesus is where we go to find truth, healing, salvation.    God’s word teaches us that God loved us so much, that is every human being (John 3:16) that He sent the Son to be the Savior of the world, not to condemn the world, but to draw men to Him.

Paul points this out in the above text, that we must rely on spiritual truth, the truth of the Holy Ghost.  To rely on words of man’s wisdom is to make man our salvation, and then Jesus is unable to help us.  If someone calls themselves a Christian, and they are not relying primarily on the wisdom of the Cross, then they are deluding themselves.

The red pill, in particular Rollo Tomassi in his tome, the Rational Male, claims that power in relationships is invested in the person who needs the other the least.  This view of human relationships, rather than create unity and bonding, which is the purpose of the Gospel of Jesus Christ, causes a person, the one who wants power, to remain emotionally aloof from the other, so that they can manipulate the other person and use them according to their own agenda, and as one reads his book, we can see the end result of his wisdom, that man has a right to be intimate with a woman and freely use her without investing his time or resources into her.

This is not the freedom promised in Christianity, and indeed Tomassi himself has stated that the red pill is a philosophy that should not be co-dependent on any religion.  This in itself shows that the red pill is incompatible with the truth of the Gospel.  A man cannot serve two masters; if one serves the red pill, he cannot place his reliance on the Gospel, on the person of Jesus Christ.  Moreover, the power that Tomassi promises for men is contrary, is enmity with Jesus Christ.  Jesus never intended that men should manipulate and use women for their own pleasure, particularly external to a committed marital relationship.  To do so strips woman of all value that she would have in God, and makes her an object, a thing to be used and cast aside, rather than protected, and led by godly men.  Marriage is God’s intention for male-female interactions, which Tomassi and the red pill want to tear apart as surely as the feminists they rail against.

In subsequent posts, I will bring out the truths of how God views men, women, their purpose and interactions, and show how Tomassi and the red pill miss the mark.  Christian men should not swallow the red pill; if they have, they need to spit it out and run to the Cross.  In Jesus name.

Pamela Parizo © 2017