I will no longer be working on Red Pill Fallacies. I have been heavily involved in the work of God in Carson City, and do not have time to devote to it. But also because I am seeking a deeper level of consecration. Studying what the red pill believes involves reading A LOT of toxic, negative, mysogynistic materials that make me ill to read them. I will however, leave what I’ve studied so far in place. People need to realize that the whole basis for their psychology/philosophy is based in falsehoods and that anyone calling themselves a Christian would not be adhering to such harmful beliefs. One cannot have fellowship with the works of darkness and be a child of light. Dalrock, Deep Strength, and other so-called “alpha men” will stand in judgment before Jesus Christ for leading people astray and leading them to worship at the altar of idols. Rollo Tomassi is a false prophet who God will hold accountable for the souls he has led astray.
But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned. 1 Corinthians 2:14
In order to fulfill the things of God, we must walk after the Spirit and not after the flesh. As I stated in my article Two types of man, there are only two types. No alphas, no gammas, etc. There is a carnal man, which we are when we are born. In order to attain Christ, we must be re-born in the Spirit (John 3:5). Then we become a spiritual man. The Apostle Paul goes into this in more depth in Romans 8 and in 1 Corinthians 15.
Let me emphasize that we come to Jesus, old things are passed away. We put off our old man, and become a new man in Him. This is because Jesus resides within our Temple. We cannot become a new man of our own efforts. This is carnal. While the Mosaic Law was holy, it was imperfect because it was involved performing ordinances. Jesus put away the Law for its imperfections. We are in a New Covenant. The glory of the Mosaic Law reached its end in Jesus. Paul says in Romans 8:3-4
For what the law could not do, in that it was weak through the flesh, God sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh, and for sin, condemned sin in the flesh: That the righteousness of the law might be fulfilled in us, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.
Hebrews 7 goes into this in more depth, that the Mosaic Law made no man perfect. That isn’t to say there are not things in the Mosaic Law that we still obey but they are included in the Law of Christ, for we know that the Law is fulfilled if we love God and love our neighbor. Agape love fulfills the whole of the Law.
Paul said “If any man be in Christ he is a new creature.” 2 Corinthians 5:17 The spiritual man is a new creation, a new beginning. We are no longer the same person we were before our re-birth.
I said that to say this, the Red Pill “Christians” (among them Donal Graeme) believe that a woman still possesses the same nature that she had before she became a Christian, that without a husband to control her through his “godly masculinity” she cannot overcome her “base” nature, and will forsake her wedding vows. He believes that during much of history legal law kept woman’s base nature under control, but that with Feminism this is no longer possible. While I agree with them that Feminism has sought to destroy the institution of marriage, and masculinity in our society the Christian manosphere denies the power of God to transform a woman from her natural self to a spiritual woman. For indeed, what of women who have not a husband, virgins and widows? How do they avoid the temptations of the flesh? They have no godly man to adore and be attracted to (please!). They may desire a husband, but they don’t run amuck without one. They believe that the man exhibits the godly qualities to attract and hold her. Is it not then Jesus Christ who works through her in their marriage? Or is it the man?
A Christian woman certainly needs the spiritual leadership of a godly man. I am not an egalitarian, and will be the first to admit that woman does need to submit to her husband in order to protect her from following in the deception of Eve. This does not mean that women alone can be tempted or that man on his own can prevent that temptation. It takes the power of the Holy Ghost and agape love to accomplish this. Ephesians 5 is accomplished through agape love, but agape love is only possible through the workings of the Holy Ghost. Demonstration of the Spirit.
Galatians says that self-control is one of the fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:23). While the head of man is Christ, it still requires the Holy Spirit working in the woman to follow her husband in godliness. Without the power of the Spirit, no amount of righteousness on his part is going to make her follow him. No amount of faith, self-control, etc, etc. is going to get her to submit to his leadership. I have seen women walk away from godly men walking in the Spirit simply because she fell away from the Spirit, and lost faith.
Woman naturally has a desire to control her husband. She can only overcome this through the power of the Spirit which will help her to submit to him. Man is required to love her as Christ loved the Church, sacrificially, providing her the spiritual leadership that she needs to insulate her from external temptations. Her husband then reinforces the power of the Spirit working in her, by teaching her, leading her. Self-control is of the Spirit, not of her attraction to her husband’s godliness. Both man and woman are tempted of Satan to forsake wedding vows if they do not maintain their marital relationship (1 Corinthians 7), not just woman, so it’s vital that in addition to following the order of marriage, that they maintain the sexual aspect of marriage. The man models Christ, but ultimately it is the Spirit that is going to accomplish these things.
Lastly, I want to emphasize that if it was only the man’s righteousness that kept a woman under control, this would negate 1 Peter 3:1 which indicates that a godly woman can win her unsaved husband through her submission to him.
The Red Pill Christians need to submit themselves to the power of the Holy Ghost so that they will understand that it is not by their power, nor their might but by demonstration of the power of the Spirit. They must learn that their righteousness is as filthy rags, and that both man and woman need the Spirit in order to attain to stable Christian marriages.
Pamela Parizo © 2017
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him. Genesis 2:18 RSV
In the Book of Genesis, God creates all the animals and then He creates the Man, His image reflected in human flesh. I first want to state that man is a separate creation from the creatures of the earth and IS NOT an animal by God’s definition. God saw that Man was alone, unlike all His other living creatures, so He decided to create for him a help suitable for him. God caused a sleep to come over Adam, and brought a rib out in order to fashion the woman. Eve is not a clone of him, but it is a separate, biologically distinct creation that is nevertheless a complementary part of mankind. So while we share a common humanity, we are biologically different.
The question has arisen in recent times, whether God intended for man to be polygamous. The primary thing in the Bible that rules against this is that God twice had the opportunity to provide multiple partners for man and He didn’t. At the Creation and at the Flood, God chose to have one man, one woman as the ideal to carry on mankind. In considering this problem, I play the opposition and ask the question, what rules against man being polygamous? Why would being polygamous not be in God’s gameplan? I think the key goes back to the original directive God gave to the man and to the woman, to “be fruitful, multiply and replenish the earth.” I’m going to call this command, God’s Imperative. While they are to produce children, and produce them exponentially, the purpose of all this is to replenish the earth, to fill it at the correct proportions. At current, there are near 7.5 billion people upon the earth. In 1900, that was 1.6 billion. So we can see that when man multiplies at a high rate, it overruns the earth. So, if God had given man multiple partners they would have multiplied faster than God intended.
This one male, one female pattern can be seen further throughout the Bible. Animals on the Ark were assembled by pairs. The majority of people mentioned in the Bible were monogamous. At the Flood, not only the animals, but the humans also had only one mate. In scripture after scripture, man is directed to enjoy his wife, not wives. To be satisfied with his wife. Jesus reinforces this ideal when he says that God made two in the beginning. It is true that God did not condemn polygamy in general but it was never his ideal. Abraham had serial wives; Isaac had one wife; Jacob would have chosen only one wife but through deceit and his wives concern for having children, he ended up with two wives and two concubines. Men were allowed to take extra wives in wartime. David also had multiple wives. God did not condemn these relationships because it did not violate His imperative.
Monogamy has been the most stable factor in human history, so one has to ask that if male was naturally polygamous, why there have not been more polygamous societies. It’s because some men choose not to be monogamous. Some men are not satisfied with one wife. And this has been borne out in a recent scientific study. Men and women experience lust, which is natural to our carnal natures, always wanting more than we have.
The Red Pill (and more specifically Rollo Tomassi) puts forward the evolutionary theory that Men are by nature polygamous (Male Imperative) and that Women are by nature both hypergamous (seeking the highest quality mate–the Female Imperative) and monogamous (seeking commitment). I’ve already stated that evolution is not true, it is theoretical in nature, and violates the tenets of the Bible. Rollo in many instances disparages the Bible.
The Male Imperative then is contrary to God’s Imperative of one man, one woman and the directive to replenish the earth. It is born out of man’s lust. While polygamy was allowed, as Christians we should seek God’s ideal and not man’s. The Apostle Paul directs men to have their own wife (again, implying monogamy). Neither the Mosaic Law nor Christianity condones men having harems of unmarried women, of having man exploit the sexuality of women, which the Red Pill and Rollo Tomassi condone. In fact, Rollo in one place tells men they should avoid getting married. He developed something called plate theory and believes powerful men, these “alpha males” should only pursue their self-interest and it is within their self-interest to keep many options open (women as plates) in order to avoid what he calls Oneitis. While Oneitis (the soulmate theory) is false, I would call the Male Imperative a half-truth. It does not meet God’s ideal.
Which brings us to the Female Imperative. How does the Female Imperative measure against God’s Imperative? If woman is naturally hypergamous, that is, she is seeking the most dominant, attractive and powerful mate to marry, that would not meet the ideals of Christianity. Christianity is based not on the natural man, but the spiritual. So, in Christianity, it is not the natural man that matters to God’s kingdom, but the spiritual man. While we all as humans want to have a valuable companion to spend our life with and build the Kingdom of God, women who profess godliness are not looking for any of the qualities suggested by hypergamy, but rather the qualities of a godly husband–provision, protection, and spiritual leadership. Qualities of physical beauty and attractiveness are subjective. In terms of woman seeking commitment in a relationship, of seeking a mate who can meet her needs for safety and security for herself and her children I would say that that portion of the Female Imperative is true. So, also, in terms of God’s Imperative, the Female Imperative is also a half-truth.
God wants us to find a mate that is suitable, both for His directive of replenishing the earth (which is less urgent in these times) and of building the Kingdom of God, building spiritually sound Christian families. He isn’t interested in man’s lustful desire for more than one woman, or in woman’s need for an attractive, powerful mate. He is interested in Christian families, which meets man’s and woman’s needs for companionship, love and stability within our society and the church. A monogamous, loving relationship is God’s Imperative.
Pamela Parizo © 2017
This is a copy of a post from my other blog, The Glorious Wife
For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth; to the Jew first, and also to the Greek.–Romans 1:16
Let’s face it, everybody wants to rule the world these days. That old song of Tears for Fears came to my mind this morning, as I considered gender roles, but also doctrines competing for our mindspace.
Growing up, I didn’t have Jesus. Oh, He called me at an early age, about five, I think. But somehow, I got disconnected. I was tossed to and fro in the world. One church, another. My sister used to read someone called Ram Dass. Though Catholic at the time, she also read some Eastern junk. In my twenties, I was into New age stuff, exploring Catholicism, yoga, anything. I was really looking for the power of God.
Thankfully, after wandering many years, a young man came to me and told me the truth about Jesus. I went to an apostolic pentecostal church. That is, we follow the apostle’s doctrine, and we believe in the experience they had in the Book of Acts, that it is still valid for us today. I absolutely believe in the supernatural power of God to manifest itself in our world.
You see, Christianity is more than just the teachings of Jesus. It isn’t all theologies and philosophies. Oh, here, the gospel is incomplete so I will throw in this little pet thought of man’s wisdom. NO! A truth is only valid if it supports the whole truth of the Bible. Thy word is truth.
First of all, most of what passes for science is theory. Evolution is theory. Different psychologists will have different studies about different things. But does it support the Gospel? My problem with evolutionary psychology isn’t just that it is unproven. It is that it is based on the natural, the physical. I am hard-wired, it’s in my DNA. Some Red Pill “Christian” bloggers like to say that a woman, though Christian, is still a woman and needs instruction and control so that she will not violate her marital vows. Woman run amuck! Paul in his Second Epistle to Timothy (2 Timothy 3:5) wrote: Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. He says they are ever learning and never coming to a knowledge of the truth.
Jesus came to Nicodemus and spoke to him of a New Birth. Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God. John 3:3. Nicodemus could only see with the natural eye, the natural mind. Can a man crawl back into his mother’s womb?
Jesus goes beyond the natural, takes us to a higher level. First came the earthy man. Lastly comes the spiritual. All things are made new. No matter how the natural man was in the beginning, God through Christ, takes us to the spiritual, which is the true substance, while the rest is shadow. Jesus can change, TRANSFORM, who we are. I was born that way. Yes, but through Jesus you can be RE-BORN.
Women are hard-wired to want to control their environment. We get so used to managing our homes, our children, that we see the man as an extra child we have to feed, clothes, take care of. But God never intended that we should control our husbands. So how do we OVERCOME our wiring? How do we become the submissive, virtuous, woman of strength and honor God wants us to be?
But ye shall receive power, after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you: and ye shall be witnesses unto me both in Jerusalem, and in all Judaea, and in Samaria, and unto the uttermost part of the earth.–Acts 1:8
We look at the commandments of Ephesians 5, and we think these things can be done through our human power alone? Submit to our husband? What? Love your wives? What? Agape, unconditional love? Boy, that stretches my DNA. That stretches my natural man to its limits.
The gospel isn’t just about teachings. Jesus wasn’t just a teacher. Doctrine yes, is essential, but doctrine can only be accomplished through the Spirit. It was only after the miraculous outpouring of the Holy Ghost that the people followed the apostle’s doctrine. I don’t care what your natural man is like; have you become a spiritual man? If you believe our future in Christ is only through the natural formations of our DNA, of our hard-wiring, then you need to come into the Holy of Holies with me.
Have you received the HOLY GHOST since you believed?
Pamela Parizo © 2017
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. Ephesians 5:25-27
While I recommend that husbands and wives read and practice the Ephesians 5 principles for their marriage, I want to key in on the above verses because I think they are essential to understanding that the union between Christ and the Church is what marriage is symbolic of.
When considering any action in marriage, a husband should take a look at how Christ interacts with the Church and then ask himself, whether Christ would behave in that manner toward His people. Jesus’ love for the church is sacrificial, it’s unconditional and it’s commited. Jesus’ love is the highest form of love there is, and a husband should model it. Likewise a woman should judge her own actions by the callings to which Jesus has for the Church and ask herself whether the Church would treat Christ in the manner in which she is treating her husband.
When a spouse distances themselves from their partner, or at worst, is unfaithful to them, it’s important to look at the Bible to see how to treat these problems, because relying on the wisdom of men can severely damage a relationship and end any hope for it.
In the Rational Male, Rollo Tomassi puts forward the rule that power belongs to the partner who needs the other the least. So he (and the Red Pill follows this as well) puts forward the idea that a man should remain aloof from his partner, that he should develop external interests and that a wife or female partner should not be at the center of the man’s life. And yet, they would have the female strongly desire them to the point where they are willing to create such an uncertainty in the woman that she will pursue them. It’s the height of manipulation, and even Machievellian when one thinks of the way these men are exploiting females in their lives.
The ideal that a woman should not be a core part of the man’s life is contrary to Biblical doctrine. Woman was created to be a help to the man, a support in his dominion role within the world and in a marriage, he is to treat her as Christ treats the Church. The Bride is central to Jesus’ mission of salvation. In fact, it is the medium through which He expresses his mission. His bride glorifies Him.
Also, the Red Pill “games” are contrary not only to a Christian relationship, but are contrary to the core principle of agape love. True intimacy comes through honesty, and deceit and dishonest will destroy a relationship.
Ephesians 5 demonstrates a model of marriage based on Jesus and His Bride with the core principle of agape love binding them together. Through the Spirit of Jesus, that is through the self-sacrificing love that He has for us, a woman can submit herself to her husband, and the husband can love his wife as Jesus loves the Church. This is the plan that God has for man and wife, that they give to each other and live in the harmony of an ordered relationship, glorifying Jesus Christ.
Pamela Parizo © 2017
And Jacob loved Rachel; and said, I will serve thee seven years for Rachel thy younger daughter. And Laban said, It is better that I give her to thee, than that I should give her to another man: abide with me. And Jacob served seven years for Rachel; and they seemed unto him but a few days, for the love he had to her. And Jacob said unto Laban, Give me my wife, for my days are fulfilled, that I may go in unto her. Genesis 29:18-21
Today I want to take a break from the order of things so that I can bring you a love story. In fact, it is one of the few instances of love at first sight recorded in the Bible. The above verses detail how Jacob the son of Isaac, grandson of Abraham came to be married to his wife Rachel. Jacob, as we know it, had to leave his home in Canaan because his brother Esau wanted to kill him. Rebekah sent him to Haran to the home of her brother Laban. When Jacob arrives he finds Rachel there tending her father’s sheep and he kisses her out of joy.
Shortly after, we are told that Jacob loves Rachel and asks Laban to give her to him to wife. We do know that Rachel is beautiful. However, the language of this passage, even in the Hebrew suggests that his love for her was more than just sexual passion. Several things rule against this. The word for love used in this passage is ahav, which can define many things, just as our word love does. Let me say that love in the Bible is not what we think of as romantic love. Romantic love idealizes the couple, whereas Biblical love is more real, more intense, and more soulful.
The things in this passage that rule for a heartfelt rather than an erotic love are:
- Use of the word love, which for the most part in the Bible does not indicate simply erotic sexual pleasure (I will go into that more)
- It says the time he served for her seemed like just a few days for the love that he held for her. Not only does he have to work for her for seven years, but when we go to later verses, it indicates that he had to work an additional seven years in order to get her for his wife. Fourteen years for one woman, whose looks I’m sure changed during that time.
Other things in the account of Jacob-Rachel that rule for a heartfelt love rather than pure sexual desire:
- He favored her children above Leah’s
- When he thought Esau was coming for them, he set her and her children in the hindmost position (the safest)
In several articles I have read on the Jewish concept of marital love, it indicates the importance of the aspect of giving of one’s self, of loving the whole person, of loving from the heart, and I will include the links for these at the end. Though not romantic love, it was important that a husband show his wife tenderness and affection. To treat her simply as an object of physical pleasure was to strip her of her humanity. Also, in Judaism, giving of oneself to one’s spouse is considered a mitzvot, a good deed. For the Jew, unlike other peoples, everything was about the divine, so that even the pleasures of life were gifts from God. In Judaism, human intimacy involves the heart and soul and mind, thus the commandment to love God in this manner. Giving of one’s whole self.
The Red Pill “Christian” blogger Dalrock feels that Genesis 29 is an erotic story of love as he reduces love to sexuality in general, much contrary to the Christian concept of love expressed throughout the New Testament, and in for the most part in the old. In this article, Dalrock admits he knows very little about the original Hebrew or the Jewish context of love, and so he has a very convoluted way of looking at texts about love (probably from aligning himself too much with the amoral Mr. Tomassi).
Dalrock uses a different version of the Bible and implies that because his version says Jacob slept with Leah and Rachel that that means there was no emotion involved. Erroneous logic. First, to assume that sleeping with Leah all night meant he had no emotional attachment to Rachel. If he didn’t know it was Leah, this must have meant it was either too dark, or she was in some way disguised. He had no way of knowing what Rachel’s body looked like or felt like, so it would have been easy to “beguile” him. Second, sleeping with your wife is expected! Are you not going to go in to your wife? Does that mean you don’t have feelings for her because you sleep with her? Juvenile reasoning, for sure.
He also compares the passage to that of Michal and David where it indicates Michal had feelings for David. Let me just say here, that just because it doesn’t mention Rachel’s feelings in the matter doesn’t mean she didn’t care. We simply have no way of knowing. She doesn’t protest the marriage, that is certain. However, we do know that the Hebrew text indicates Jacob’s great love for Rachel in the use of the word “ahavah”. Ahavah means a deeper love and in some cases can mean “lovesick”. It is the love Jonathan had for David, and David for Jonathan in 1 Samuel 18 and 1 Kings 1. So we do know that Jacob had more than physical love for Rachel.
Lastly, I want to point out that in the Septuagint, the translation of the Old Testament from the Hebrew to the Greek, the word for love is “agape” which is the highest form of love there is and involves affection and high esteem. It is the word used for divine love in the New Testament. If the passage in Genesis 29 was simply a tale of physical pleasure, they would have used the word “eros”. While the translation of ahav to agape can seem controversial, it is less so if one goes back to the meaning of marital intimacy in the Jewish context of loving the whole person. A man and wife can rejoice in this intimacy for this very reason that it does involve their emotions, as evidenced by the Song of Solomon.
Dalrock’s assessment that a man loving his wife is like two animals mating is contrary not only to Christian ideals, but to the Jewish context of love and what differentiates man from the beasts of the field. A woman is more than just a body to sate one’s pleasures on, or even to enjoy simply physical pleasure with her. It involves heart and soul. God gave us a heart and a soul for a reason, and the red pill advocates need to find theirs.
There is no man that hath power over the spirit to retain the spirit; neither hath he power in the day of death: and there is no discharge in that war; neither shall wickedness deliver those that are given to it.–Ecclesiastes 8:8
All power comes from God. He made the Universe and everything in it, within 6 days. He did so just by speaking things into existence. God set man over His creation on earth, giving him dominion over all the creatures of the earth.
God is in control of everything that exists. While man can manipulate his environment to some extent, the things a man has can be taken from him. The Book of Job points to a test between God and Satan to test the righteous man Job. Within a process of time, Job’s sons, his material wealth, even his health are taken from him. One can see from the example of Job how the physical things of this life can be taken away from one. I have seen very healthy men acquire physical disease. One only has to look at the example of John Kennedy, Jr., a man who had everything, who was killed in a flying accident. For a man then to think he has the power is a gross absurdity.
The Red Pill advocates that a man, which they call alpha which the Bible does not even recognize (see my article on Two types of man) can obtain power through his domination of his environment. This includes women, which the red pill gives very little value to, except in so much that women have sexual value. To red pill men, women are only valuable as long as they are young and attractive and can be used in a sexual manner either through a committed relationship or through amoral sex. Rollo Tomassi, in his Red Pill devotional, The Rational Male explains that power in relationships is obtained by the person who needs the other the least.
First, God alone holds power and to whom He will give it (1). Jesus Christ said “All power is given to me in heaven and in earth.” (2) Jesus received all power as God manifest in flesh, and shed abroad the Holy Ghost on the Day of Pentecost. He told the disciples they should go to Jerusalem and wait for the promise of the Father, saying “And ye shall receive power after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you (3). The only way to have power in God’s kingdom is to receive the Spirit of God.
Red Pill “Alt-Christianity”, for it is not true Christianity, would have men come to the altar of the red pill rather than to the source of true power, Jesus Christ. It would rather they be lovers of themselves, hedonistically seeing marriage as sexual alone in nature, and aligning themselves with those who deny women’s inherent value as a creation of God and deny that Christ alone is sufficient to combat the evils of Feminism. Somehow evolutionary psychology saves the day for these Alt-Christians and restores their true masculinity. They epitomize the admonition of Paul that in the last days men would be lovers of self, and lovers of pleasure rather than God, having a form of godliness but denying the power thereof (4).
The Bible tells us to turn away from these types of people because they do deny the power of God. The Red Pill (secular) upholds evolutionary psychology which is contrary to Christ in its amoral approach to relationships, and the Christian version is still bad for Christian men as it still reduces women to a sexual market value, aligns itself with the amoral red pill advocates, and does not lead men to Christ. It denies the power of God to transform people, and see themselves as the controlling factor in relationships rather than the Spirit and the agape love of Jesus.
From such, turn away.
Pamela Parizo © 2017
(1) Psalm 62:11
(2) Matthew 28:18
(3) Acts 1:8
(4) 2 Timothy 3:5