I will no longer be working on Red Pill Fallacies. I have been heavily involved in the work of God in Carson City, and do not have time to devote to it. But also because I am seeking a deeper level of consecration. Studying what the red pill believes involves reading A LOT of toxic, negative, mysogynistic materials that make me ill to read them. I will however, leave what I’ve studied so far in place. People need to realize that the whole basis for their psychology/philosophy is based in falsehoods and that anyone calling themselves a Christian would not be adhering to such harmful beliefs. One cannot have fellowship with the works of darkness and be a child of light. Dalrock, Deep Strength, and other so-called “alpha men” will stand in judgment before Jesus Christ for leading people astray and leading them to worship at the altar of idols. Rollo Tomassi is a false prophet who God will hold accountable for the souls he has led astray.
This is a copy of a post from my other blog, The Glorious Wife
For I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ: for it is the power of God unto salvation to every one that believeth; to the Jew first, and also to the Greek.–Romans 1:16
Let’s face it, everybody wants to rule the world these days. That old song of Tears for Fears came to my mind this morning, as I considered gender roles, but also doctrines competing for our mindspace.
Growing up, I didn’t have Jesus. Oh, He called me at an early age, about five, I think. But somehow, I got disconnected. I was tossed to and fro in the world. One church, another. My sister used to read someone called Ram Dass. Though Catholic at the time, she also read some Eastern junk. In my twenties, I was into New age stuff, exploring Catholicism, yoga, anything. I was really looking for the power of God.
Thankfully, after wandering many years, a young man came to me and told me the truth about Jesus. I went to an apostolic pentecostal church. That is, we follow the apostle’s doctrine, and we believe in the experience they had in the Book of Acts, that it is still valid for us today. I absolutely believe in the supernatural power of God to manifest itself in our world.
You see, Christianity is more than just the teachings of Jesus. It isn’t all theologies and philosophies. Oh, here, the gospel is incomplete so I will throw in this little pet thought of man’s wisdom. NO! A truth is only valid if it supports the whole truth of the Bible. Thy word is truth.
First of all, most of what passes for science is theory. Evolution is theory. Different psychologists will have different studies about different things. But does it support the Gospel? My problem with evolutionary psychology isn’t just that it is unproven. It is that it is based on the natural, the physical. I am hard-wired, it’s in my DNA. Some Red Pill “Christian” bloggers like to say that a woman, though Christian, is still a woman and needs instruction and control so that she will not violate her marital vows. Woman run amuck! Paul in his Second Epistle to Timothy (2 Timothy 3:5) wrote: Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. He says they are ever learning and never coming to a knowledge of the truth.
Jesus came to Nicodemus and spoke to him of a New Birth. Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God. John 3:3. Nicodemus could only see with the natural eye, the natural mind. Can a man crawl back into his mother’s womb?
Jesus goes beyond the natural, takes us to a higher level. First came the earthy man. Lastly comes the spiritual. All things are made new. No matter how the natural man was in the beginning, God through Christ, takes us to the spiritual, which is the true substance, while the rest is shadow. Jesus can change, TRANSFORM, who we are. I was born that way. Yes, but through Jesus you can be RE-BORN.
Women are hard-wired to want to control their environment. We get so used to managing our homes, our children, that we see the man as an extra child we have to feed, clothes, take care of. But God never intended that we should control our husbands. So how do we OVERCOME our wiring? How do we become the submissive, virtuous, woman of strength and honor God wants us to be?
But ye shall receive power, after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you: and ye shall be witnesses unto me both in Jerusalem, and in all Judaea, and in Samaria, and unto the uttermost part of the earth.–Acts 1:8
We look at the commandments of Ephesians 5, and we think these things can be done through our human power alone? Submit to our husband? What? Love your wives? What? Agape, unconditional love? Boy, that stretches my DNA. That stretches my natural man to its limits.
The gospel isn’t just about teachings. Jesus wasn’t just a teacher. Doctrine yes, is essential, but doctrine can only be accomplished through the Spirit. It was only after the miraculous outpouring of the Holy Ghost that the people followed the apostle’s doctrine. I don’t care what your natural man is like; have you become a spiritual man? If you believe our future in Christ is only through the natural formations of our DNA, of our hard-wiring, then you need to come into the Holy of Holies with me.
Have you received the HOLY GHOST since you believed?
Pamela Parizo © 2017
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. Ephesians 5:25-27
While I recommend that husbands and wives read and practice the Ephesians 5 principles for their marriage, I want to key in on the above verses because I think they are essential to understanding that the union between Christ and the Church is what marriage is symbolic of.
When considering any action in marriage, a husband should take a look at how Christ interacts with the Church and then ask himself, whether Christ would behave in that manner toward His people. Jesus’ love for the church is sacrificial, it’s unconditional and it’s commited. Jesus’ love is the highest form of love there is, and a husband should model it. Likewise a woman should judge her own actions by the callings to which Jesus has for the Church and ask herself whether the Church would treat Christ in the manner in which she is treating her husband.
When a spouse distances themselves from their partner, or at worst, is unfaithful to them, it’s important to look at the Bible to see how to treat these problems, because relying on the wisdom of men can severely damage a relationship and end any hope for it.
In the Rational Male, Rollo Tomassi puts forward the rule that power belongs to the partner who needs the other the least. So he (and the Red Pill follows this as well) puts forward the idea that a man should remain aloof from his partner, that he should develop external interests and that a wife or female partner should not be at the center of the man’s life. And yet, they would have the female strongly desire them to the point where they are willing to create such an uncertainty in the woman that she will pursue them. It’s the height of manipulation, and even Machievellian when one thinks of the way these men are exploiting females in their lives.
The ideal that a woman should not be a core part of the man’s life is contrary to Biblical doctrine. Woman was created to be a help to the man, a support in his dominion role within the world and in a marriage, he is to treat her as Christ treats the Church. The Bride is central to Jesus’ mission of salvation. In fact, it is the medium through which He expresses his mission. His bride glorifies Him.
Also, the Red Pill “games” are contrary not only to a Christian relationship, but are contrary to the core principle of agape love. True intimacy comes through honesty, and deceit and dishonest will destroy a relationship.
Ephesians 5 demonstrates a model of marriage based on Jesus and His Bride with the core principle of agape love binding them together. Through the Spirit of Jesus, that is through the self-sacrificing love that He has for us, a woman can submit herself to her husband, and the husband can love his wife as Jesus loves the Church. This is the plan that God has for man and wife, that they give to each other and live in the harmony of an ordered relationship, glorifying Jesus Christ.
Pamela Parizo © 2017
There is no man that hath power over the spirit to retain the spirit; neither hath he power in the day of death: and there is no discharge in that war; neither shall wickedness deliver those that are given to it.–Ecclesiastes 8:8
All power comes from God. He made the Universe and everything in it, within 6 days. He did so just by speaking things into existence. God set man over His creation on earth, giving him dominion over all the creatures of the earth.
God is in control of everything that exists. While man can manipulate his environment to some extent, the things a man has can be taken from him. The Book of Job points to a test between God and Satan to test the righteous man Job. Within a process of time, Job’s sons, his material wealth, even his health are taken from him. One can see from the example of Job how the physical things of this life can be taken away from one. I have seen very healthy men acquire physical disease. One only has to look at the example of John Kennedy, Jr., a man who had everything, who was killed in a flying accident. For a man then to think he has the power is a gross absurdity.
The Red Pill advocates that a man, which they call alpha which the Bible does not even recognize (see my article on Two types of man) can obtain power through his domination of his environment. This includes women, which the red pill gives very little value to, except in so much that women have sexual value. To red pill men, women are only valuable as long as they are young and attractive and can be used in a sexual manner either through a committed relationship or through amoral sex. Rollo Tomassi, in his Red Pill devotional, The Rational Male explains that power in relationships is obtained by the person who needs the other the least.
First, God alone holds power and to whom He will give it (1). Jesus Christ said “All power is given to me in heaven and in earth.” (2) Jesus received all power as God manifest in flesh, and shed abroad the Holy Ghost on the Day of Pentecost. He told the disciples they should go to Jerusalem and wait for the promise of the Father, saying “And ye shall receive power after that the Holy Ghost is come upon you (3). The only way to have power in God’s kingdom is to receive the Spirit of God.
Red Pill “Alt-Christianity”, for it is not true Christianity, would have men come to the altar of the red pill rather than to the source of true power, Jesus Christ. It would rather they be lovers of themselves, hedonistically seeing marriage as sexual alone in nature, and aligning themselves with those who deny women’s inherent value as a creation of God and deny that Christ alone is sufficient to combat the evils of Feminism. Somehow evolutionary psychology saves the day for these Alt-Christians and restores their true masculinity. They epitomize the admonition of Paul that in the last days men would be lovers of self, and lovers of pleasure rather than God, having a form of godliness but denying the power thereof (4).
The Bible tells us to turn away from these types of people because they do deny the power of God. The Red Pill (secular) upholds evolutionary psychology which is contrary to Christ in its amoral approach to relationships, and the Christian version is still bad for Christian men as it still reduces women to a sexual market value, aligns itself with the amoral red pill advocates, and does not lead men to Christ. It denies the power of God to transform people, and see themselves as the controlling factor in relationships rather than the Spirit and the agape love of Jesus.
From such, turn away.
Pamela Parizo © 2017
(1) Psalm 62:11
(2) Matthew 28:18
(3) Acts 1:8
(4) 2 Timothy 3:5
Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity (LOVE), I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing. 1 Corinthians 13:1-3
The Beatles once sang, “All You Need Is Love”, and while I don’t hold them up as being models of behavior or for anything else, they were right in this. God is Love. His greatest attribute is Love. I brought this out in my article Christ’s view of humanity. The evidence of this love was the sacrificial death of Jesus Christ upon the Cross.
Jesus repeatedly admonished his disciples, his followers to love one another, as He had loved us. To have that attitude that we should give our all for each other, even to the laying down of our lives. Our sacrifice doesn’t always go that far, but if we look at it from the point of view that we esteem each other higher than we esteem ourselves, this great love works toward the good for all involved. There is no force more powerful on the earth than Christian love. God puts this love in our hearts through the Holy Spirit.
Love transforms. It can turn a stony heart into a soft heart. It can turn away wrath. It can dispel bitterness, anger, envy, and other negative emotions. It not only transforms the recipient of love, but it transforms the giver. Love is one of the gifts of the Spirit, and is the greatest virtue of all, even greater than hope and faith.
Lastly, it’s important to realize that Love is the fulfillment of the Law (Romans 13:10). Paul indicates here that because love doesn’t work any ill toward it’s neighbor, love fulfills all of the commandments of God. The word love is repeated over and over in the New Testament in every aspect of our relationship to God, to each other, and very specifically in the relationship between a man and his wife. Man is directly commanded to love his wife. In Ephesians 5, Paul doesn’t emphasize the sexual aspect of marriage at all.
The Red Pill is very much focused on sexuality. It is a strategy of sexual relationships between men and women, and in it’s theory, marriage or any other long-term relationship/commitment takes a back seat. At its core is the idea that men, who achieve power through the aspect of aloofness from his world, recognizing his own value, should be able to use and discard anything, including women, according to his own self-interest, his own egotism. He does this through domination.
While God does give man dominion over the world and expects him to establish that dominion, God’s ultimate purpose is to create a spiritual kingdom, not a carnal one, and so a sexuality loosed from the ideal of commitment, is contrary to God’s purpose which is love for each other and for God. Commitment to love, agape, is very much at the core of our relationship to God, and His to us. It’s core to our relationship to each other, and men and women are called of God to commit themselves to each other, not to use each other and discard like so much trash.
To those who have been used and abused by the circumstances of life, by the twin evils of Feminism and the manosphere, by the raw deal that life gives to us all, there is an answer. The Spirit and the Bride (the Church) say Come. We are bid to the banqueting table of God’s love for us, to the abundant love held out to us in Jesus Christ, that will shed into our hearts love for God and for each other.
Pamela Parizo © 2017
While reading an post from earlier this year on insanitybytes’ blog, I came across this post regarding Dalrock, a red pill “Christian” blogger and found that it so aptly demonstrates his lack of commitment to Christian morality and his double standard regarding marriage.
First, my thoughts on the purpose of marriage not only from a Biblical standpoint, but a societal one. Dalrock makes clear in this article, this condemnation of the views of the National Review and others, that his idea about the purpose of marriage is to maintain sexual morality, which he rightly associates with 1 Corinthians chapter 7. As I’ve stated on my blog The Glorious Wife, a little knowledge is a dangerous thing. Dalrock evidently failed to read the book of Genesis.
The first commandment God gives to men and women is to “Be fruitful, multiply and replenish the earth”. So one of the first purposes God has for marriage is reproduction. Second, God, prior to the creation of woman out of man, looks around and says, “It is not good for man to be alone, I will make for him a help meet.” God saw that man needed a help suitable for him. This isn’t just sexual; God intended that woman should help man in his endeavours in maintaining dominion over the earth. Someone to share his life and missions with and to assist him in them. He gave man and woman a desire for each other, to know each other so that they would reproduce, but it is, as Dalrock pointed out, also to maintain morality in relationships. Lastly, before getting into the societal reasons for this, I would point to Ephesians 5, which perhaps he also hasn’t read, which states that the relationship of a man and wife is symbolic of the eternal marriage between Christ and His bride, the Church.
From a societal, or even communal standpoint, monogamy, marriage stabilizes the society. This is clear in the early 20th century work of anthropologist Dr. J. D. Unwin who showed that across time and across the world monogamous societies were more stable. Take the family out of the society and it becomes unstable because people become depraved and hedonistic. This happened in Rome and it is happening in the US.
Dalrock is vitriolic in his assessment of the National Reviews encouragement for men to marry, stating, “How can I know? You just have to look at the long string of men that came before you, men they seduced with the very same lines. Once the wedding is over, once the men of National Review have gotten what they wanted, the men who naively trusted them are discarded like yesterday’s trash. Do you really believe you will be the special one, the one they don’t toss casually away once they get what they want?”
However, there are a couple of things that Dalrock fails to take into consideration. He sees women as fickle (probably fed by his red pill view that women marry men only to provide a living and then move on to the romantic man of their dreams). However, statistics show not only that age at marriage and education are huge factors in divorce, but that committed Christians are less likely to divorce than the general public. So, rather than denigrade women as heartless wenches marrying and discarding, he should be encouraging men and women to marry later, get an education and be committed to Christ.
I would also like to point out that this is the root of Dalrock’s hypocrisy. While he has no problem pointing out that the National Review, et. al. are encouraging men to marry and thus dooming many of them to the scourge of divorce, he has no problem marrying himself to the philosophy of Rollo Tomassi as espoused in the Rational Male. Tomassi’s works not only strips woman of her inherent human value and reduces her to a sexual market value, allowing her to be used and discarded at a man’s pleasure (treated like a plate, a sexual object), and essentially saying her value is determined by the man, but his blogroll is full of people who feel the same way. He never calls any of these men out for their heartless view of women, for belittling women’s sacrificial love while upholding man’s rights to self-interest and amoral power.
From Dalrock’s standpoint, love is sex, and the marital love expressed in the Bible is primarily sensual in nature. While he states that women are due love and affection, it’s clear what his idea of that is. A search of his blog shows very little about love and a lot about sexuality. By advertising the Rational Male, Dalrock buys into the totality of its sordid attitude about women, and this is hypocritical as he calls out those who at least encourage men to make commitments while espousing himself to the ideals of Tomassi, which reflects a poor view of the value of women, indeed, allows them to be exploited and tossed aside like yesterday’s trash.
Jesus Christ values all humanity, He sees all humanity as sinful and in need of redemption, He sees only the carnal and the spiritual man, and the only power factor in His gospel is the transforming power of the Holy Ghost which can achieve far more in human relationships than red pill/evolutionary psychology theories could. If Dalrock really cared about the plight of men ruined by Feminism, He would call them to the Cross and to the Upper Room.
In Jesus name
Pamela Parizo © 2017
This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. 2 Timothy 3:1-5
Rollo Tomassi’s The Rational Male is largely built on a foundation of self-importance, on promoting dominance and power, and dominating women in order to use them for one’s pleasure. It is similar to Ayn Rand’s philosophy of selfishness as a virtue. He builds his house on shoddy philosophy (solipsism, for example, is refuted by most philosophers, but he uses it extensively to denigrade women) and pop psychology. Some of his views on evolutionary psychology are diametrical to the research performed by others more reputable in the field. He does so to tap into the bitterness and anger of the Men’s Rights Movement fueled as a backlash against Feminism.
From a Christian standpoint, we can see that selfishness and self-interest are opposed to the sacrificial love that Jesus represents. If one gets anything out of the New Covenant, is that we are to love others as we love ourselves. When we seek the best interest of our loved ones, our Christian brothers and sisters, everyone is better for it.
Jesus represents the core of this sacrificial model of love, loving us so much that He went to the Cross for our sakes. Isaiah 53 goes into more depth as to the suffering He went through that we could be made whole. The Old Testament type of this would be Hosea, the husband who loved his wife unconditionally and sacrificially, yet redeemed her so that he could be her husband and not her lord. Jesus offers up the perfect sacrifice of His blood in order to atone for our sins.
Jesus told His followers to deny themselves, to surrender their lives so that they could find life in him. There is no room for selfishness in Jesus’ world. Love one another, put the other’s needs before your own, submit yourselves one to another. These are admonishments that oppose the hedonistic lifestyle of pleasure that Rollo is self-interested in. Power in oneself rather than God. Pleasure in oneself rather than God.
Though he admits men are egotistical, Rollo differentiates (indeed, tries to validate) this self-centered life from what he sees as female egotism by saying it is rational self-interest as opposed to the pragmatic survival egotism of women. In other words, a woman sacrificing her own needs for her children is not truly self-sacrificing because she sees them as an extension of self, whereas a man exploiting women for his own pleasure is ok. His loudest cry then is that women do not sacrifice themselves for their man.
The Bible makes it clear that we are all, man and woman, to be Christ-centered. The Apostle Paul uses the phrase, “Christ who is our life” in Colossians 3:4. A man must sacrifice his desire to please himself, and please Christ. A woman must surrender her desire for her children to Christ. Any Christian who thinks of his own pleasures above what God wants for him is not being led by the Holy Ghost. Particularly if they align themselves with those who advocate a pleasure-seeking lifestyle. The red pill blogger Dalrock needs to seriously examine his faith since he closely aligns himself with Rollo Tomassi and his woman-hating philosophy. Christianity has no place for lovers of self.
The Ephesians 5 model for marriage is based on self-sacrificial love. Agape love, that is one that is committed to the other, shows affection to the other, and holds the other in high esteem. It is the love of Christ for the Church, and the love of the Church for Jesus. Indeed, even before the chapter delves into the marriage relationship, it holds forth the offering and sacrifice of Jesus as the love we are to have for each other as Christians. Women are to submit themselves to their husbands, to reverence them. Men are to sacrifice themselves for their wives, loving her as they would their own flesh, nourishing and cherishing her. There isn’t any room for selfish desires in this model.
Jesus gave Himself for the Church, in order to wash it and sanctify it through baptism according to His word, so that He could present it to Himself. The Bride glorifies Jesus through her holiness and is glorious for the glory He brings to her through HIs love for her. That is the love a man ought to have for His wife.
When one sees value in others, when one loves others, one is truly loving oneself, and bringing glory to oneself. That is the glory of Jesus Christ. There is no greater power and no greater love than that exemplified by Him when He laid down His life for us.
Pamela Parizo © 2017